(Closed) Fiance doesn’t want to wear a ring

posted 10 years ago in Rings
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  • Post # 18
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @FallBride2B: I wouldn’t force him to wear a ring he doesn’t want to wear. If he wants to get a tattoo then he should get one. It’s his body. Some men just aren’t jewelery people and I think we have to remember that just because he’s doesn’t want to wear it doesn’t mean that he’s not serious about the marriage.

    Plus, you don’t want to have his ring get caught on something and end up ripping his finger off. A lot of guys in construction wear rubber rings. Maybe you should look into that.

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    my hubby said something similar before the wedding… now he actually likes wearing his and won’t go anywhere without it.  But, because he was worried about losing or ruining his wedding ring… I bought him two identical tungsten-carbide rings.  Not only could he not scratch it, but if he lost it… he had a backup.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Because my dad worked with metal and machinery a lot, he got a wedding band but only wore it on special occassions, like their anniversary or if they went out for dinner or something. He never wore it when he was working because he was afraid it would get caught in a moving piece of machinery and would rip his finger off.

    I suggest getting a ring for you Fiance and have him do the same: not wear it when it’s dangerous but wear it on special occassions.

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    My husband can’t wear his ring at work either. He leaves it at home when he works and puts it on when he is not. But to be honest, I think he would rather not wear it at all, but that was not an option ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My Fiance is a police officer, and doesn’t want people that he’s arresting, pulling over, etc. to know that he’s married. He’d just hate for people to get mad and find out where he lives to hurt his family. Scary much?

    So he’ll just wear his when he’s not at work. Supermarket, out to dinner, etc.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    DH doesnt wear his ring at work either. He works with explosives and electrical stuff, so it would be a bad idea for him. He thought it would be stupid to get him ar ring too, but he just wear it on a chain around his neck at work and then puts it on at home and on the weekends.

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

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    @sceeder: My husband has a tungstun ring – he has the biggest fingers I’ve ever seen (seriously it’s ridiculous) – I ordered his online for around $100. He just got a plain comfort-fit band. He never wore rings before but he’s gotten used to it.

    Tell him you want him to wear the ring when he’s not working on the cars. If he wants to get a tattoo that would be underneath it (and show up when he wasn’t wearing it) then that’s cool but I would still want him to wear his ring the rest of the time. Plus he can put it on a chain if he’s worried about losing it when he takes it off.

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

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    @FallBride2B: Have you gone ring shopping yet? I think you would be surprised about how excited the grooms get. My Fiance was totally against getting a ring at first, but then we went shopping and he was like a kid in a candy shop. 

    I doubt it’s that he doesn’t want to wear it…I’m sure it just seems weird that he will have a new ‘thing’ on his finger all the time now. 

     

    Post # 27
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My husband works on cars too.  I just have him take it off when he goes in the garage, simple as that.  Occasionally, he works in a plant where he can’t wear a ring and I have him leave it at home then too.

    His ring is tungsten with a carbon inlay.  The carbon has been chipped but the tungsten is fine (the inlay isn’t covered by the indestructible warranty).

    Post # 28
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think I would flip shiz if Fiance didn’t want to wear a ring. Just order him a ring that is fairly indestructable (like tungsten, etc) and then make a special place for him to put it when he does dirty work (like a little coin box on your dresser, etc). My Fiance has never worn any jewellery of any kind, so we got him a comfort fit. It will take some getting used to, but he will live!

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Several things: 1) my mom thinks it’s weird that all men wear rings now. When she got married (way back in the 70’s ๐Ÿ™‚ ) Men generally did not wear rings except for special occasions and anniversaries and stuff.

    2)FH probably hasn’t worn a ring before and imagines he won’t like it. I had the same concerns when i got engaged, since I don’t wear jewelry. I was sure I would hate it, but now I don’t even notice it.

    3) My FH is paranoidly afraid of either the ring getting stuck on his finger or it getting caught on machinery. I don’t care if he wears a ring or not, but he thinks it is important to have one he likes/WOULD wear. So our plan is to get him a lovely bentwood one. There are several vendors on etsy that sell nice ones. Maybe that would be a non-worrying compromise for him? So if it does get caught, it wouldn’t be a big issue to replace.

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My Fiance did not think that he would get used to wearing a ring either, as he has never worn any jewelry.  However, I bought him a Claddagh ring for his birthday and he barely ever takes it off now.  He said he doesn’t even notice it anymore.  I think rings are just something you get used to over time.

    We are also going with an inexpensive tungsten band for Fiance.  He is worried about losing it, and found one that he really likes so it seems like a good option.  They are also very strong.  If you aren’t spending a ton of money on it, hopefully, he won’t feel bad if it scratches it.

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