Post # 62
I don’t see the big deal with him not wanting to wear a ring and I love the idea of the tatoo…really sweet. I think you should consider it. The ring is not what makes you married anyway. I know it is a symbol but many people don’t wear them, it doesn’t make their marriage any less real.
Fi might not even wear his ring after the wedding day. I really don’t care. He likes his ring but he is not a ring person (that’s why we got him a cheap ring). I get that. Doesnt mean he loves me any less because of that.
Post # 63
If he’s working with machinery in the cars, then it might not be safe for him to wear a ring, no matter how cheap it is. So it sounds like he shouldn’t wear a ring while working on cars regardless. DH also said he wasn’t used to wearing a ring, didn’t like a ring on his finger, and frequently “forgot” to wear his. We had a conversation about how much it meant to me for him to wear it. He started wearing it more, and sleeping in it seemed to get him used to wearing it. Now he feels naked without it. It also helps if it’s a ring he likes. He was fine with the band we picked out before the wedding. Then, after the wedding, he picked out a cheap ring to wear on our honeymoon (which was a few months post-wedding) so he wouldn’t risk losing his real ring. He likes the style of his “fake” ring much better, so he’s more likely to wear it. While I’d prefer if he wore the ring I slipped on his finger on our wedding day, I’m more glad that he’s wearing *A* ring, and don’t gripe over which one he chooses.