Post # 1
So we’re in the midst of planning, I’ve all but lost the fight for an elopment, so we’re back to our small 30 person garden wedding. A, my fiancé has mentioned he doesn’t intend to actually wear his wedding bring because he doesn’t do jewellery.
I see our wedding rings as symbol of our love and a reminder of our commitment. he just doesn’t get it, how can I make maim understand?!
Any other bees with the same problem?
Post # 3
Sorry to hear about that! My Fiance doesn’t have a ring yet, per se, but I don’t think he’d have a problem wearing one. Have you talked to him about why he refuses? I understand not wanting to wear ‘jewelry’, I’m a girl and I only wear a watch and my e-ring, nothing else for that. Some possible reasons for your guy wanting to not wear it would be privacy, or an allergy to certain metals, or simply a fear of ‘proof of commitment’. I hope things get ironed out for you soon! *Hugs*
Post # 4
That’s understandable! FYI many men don’t wear their rings… for similar reasons like they don’t wear jewellery.. they work in a dirty environment… the ring doesn’t fit anymore….. actually my own dad doesn’t wear his wedding ring!!
Howvever.. if Fiance didn’t wear his ring I would be pretty upset. Although he has an engagement ring and wears it everyday 🙂 so I don’t see us having that problem!
Post # 5
@Brooke1226: Are you changing your last name? It’s sort of the same thing, in that it’s a public symbol of your marriage.
Post # 6
@Brooke1226: Mine didnt want to wear one because his “dad never wore one” but once I explained to him its meaning to me and in general, then took him to what seemed like 10 different jewellery stores he found one he likes that he wears all the time 🙂
Post # 7
My Fiance doesn’t either he hates jewelry! He doesn’t even own a watch lol
Post # 8
@Brooke1226: maybe you should get him a man-gagement ring to wear now so he can get used to the feel of a ring on his finger. IMO the rings are symbols of love and commitment to each other. I’d be heartbroken if FH didn’t want to wear one.
Post # 9
This has nothing to do with you, your committment to eachother, your marriage and everything to do with it being jewelry. Many men don’t do the ring thing because its jewelry and they think they wont like it. I would talk to him and explain to him how you feel about the symbolism. Hopefully agree that he can at least TRY it and find a ring that fits him well. Then see how it goes. All the men on my FIs side does not do the ring. But I explained to my Fiance that I would like him to at least try it. That being said im custom making his ring so it fits comfortable and hopefully more of a chance he will wear it for the long haul.
Post # 10
I actually gave my husband the option of wearing one or not. It didn’t bother me at all if he wore it (he does). It’s quite different for men to have a ring on whereas most women are quite used to it. Prince William doesn’t wear one – although if someone doesn’t know he’s married they must be living on another planet lol!
Post # 11
My husband really didn’t want to wear his every day because he thought it would be uncomfortable. I told him it was important to me that he wear it, and that I thought he would get used to it. Now, 1.5 yrs later, he loves his ring, feels weird when he takes it off, and isn’t bothered by it at all.
He wears pink shirts and loves cats, though, so maybe he has fewer hangups about being “manly”!
Post # 12
@Brooke1226: Ooooooooh, girl. That would piss me off, personally. I mean, I get it, guys don’t wear jewelry, but this is a very important and symbolic thing IMO.
And really, back when you were a single lady, how many times did you see some hot dude and IMMEDIATELY check for a ring, see one, and boom, over. I know I’ve done it a gazillion times, and if my Fiance was on the receiving end of said glance from single lady, he better be wearin’ that ring!
Post # 13
My husband doesn’t wear his. He goes to the gym every day and also does boxing so he can’t wear it then, plus he’s not allowed to wear it at work in case he gets it caught so it really only leaves the evening when he gets home to wear it which would be pointless.. It doesn’t bother me.
Post # 14
This is really common, a lot of guys do not wear rings because they find them uncomfortable. My Father-In-Law does not wear one and my husband said he would not either. I told him I would be fine with that if he at least tried to wear it for a while after the wedding to see if he could get used to it. It has been 4 months and he still wears it on most days so it has lasted longer than I expected.
Post # 15
@pink lantern: We will be in a similar situation. My Fiance is pretty keen to get to work picking out/designing our bands, however he works in a shop with machinery and glues, and will have to take it off frequently. I’ve told him that my preference is that he just not wear it to work at all, since it’s far more likely to get lost if he’s taking it on and off.
I figure he’ll wear it socially, and on weekends.
Post # 16
I told my Fiance it was important that he wear the ring at least some of the time (he can’t wear it all the time due to his job). He said he would. We’ll see. While I’d like him to wear it, I know that some men just don’t. My father didn’t wear his.