(Closed) Fiance' driving me a little bonkers….Hoarding candy?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh my. Is he a type 2 diabetic? Is it possible that he uses it to treat lows?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I should add, my Fiance is a type 1 diabetic so he uses insulin and keeps food with him at all times. He keeps grabbing things and bringing them with him to bed and right now he literally has like 5 granola bars and 8 bags of fruit snacks on his dresser. I told him he only needs one, so he compiled them all into a zip loc so at least it’s in one place haha. His car is the same way!

If your Fiance is a type 2, he likely doesn’t deal with low blood sugar so this is a moot point. In that case, I would approach it that you’re concerned with his health. My Fiance is extremely healthy but every once in a while he’ll do things like forget his testing equipment or forget to account for carbs eaten, and I get upset and tell him that he needs to think about our future and our lives together and take the best care of himself that he can. I think if you frame it as concerns about his health and future health, it might be better than saying “no candy!!”

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Hi, So I am a type 2, and I hoard candy just like that.  I do eat candy, not tons, but probably a couple pieces a day beacause life isn’t worth living on a strict diabetic diet IMO. I’m medication controlled, no insulin, that might make a difference.

 The hoarding I do because something inside of me is ANGRY that I can’t just go crazy on a bag of snickers like non diabetics.  The longer I ignore this angry voice the worse my cravings get and then I end up giving in in spectacularly bad fashion.  So, I started buying bags of candy and keeping it in the house. I don’t actually eat it, but buying it and having it make me feel…normal? not like my diabetes runs my life (although it clearly does) 

I don’t know if you need to talk about it much beyond, ‘Wow thats a lot of candy!’ It has taken me years to understand why I do this.  I think alot of it is holiday related when the stores are pushing it at you and it helps me cope. Also maybe because I was diagnosed very young and am jealous of friends who I imagined ate candy for all three meals.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Perhaps him feeling the need to buy the candy is his way of denying that he has a disease. But then his conscience kicks in and he doesn’t eat it. I’d ask him why he has so many bags of it since it’s definitely odd behavior. Be supportive of him. But I’d refrain from telling him flat out that he can’t ever have candy. It will just make him want it more, and make him resent you. Just be supportive and reaffirm that you want him to be healthy so that you can have a long life together.

I’m a nursing student and from what I’ve seen in clinic Diabetes complicates everything. Even a simple cold changes when you’re a diabetic because it takes them longer to heal and they’re more prone to illness and other diseases. My first clinic day I watched the nurse apply a wound vac to a diabetic man’s amputated leg. Your husband does not want to deal with that. It sounds like he is having coping issues.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@JoJoDahling:  Do you keep up with his Dr visits at all? I always ask my Fiance for his A1C and what his doctor said since he goes in every 3 months. If the numbers aren’t looking good, I’ll nag him a little more about his health. If his blood sugar is still high as a Type 2, he really does need to make some changes. Does he exercise? I guess, given that information, I would probably just talk to him about the candy. See if you can get some sugar-free candy to eat in moderation. Popsicles are great too!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My dad’s a type 2 diabetic.  I can tell you that the reason he’s hoarding candy is because his doctor should be smacked upside the head.  No, you can’t have sweet things all the time as a type 2.  BUT, if you try to tell someone all of a sudden that they’re cut off from all things sweet, that is the best way to make them a binge sweet eater, which is horrible for diabetics.  It’s all about carb control for type 2.  And it’s all about give and take.  Dad had extra fruit in the morning?  Then he gets only half an english muffin for breakfast.  He had a piece of chocolate in the afternoon?  Then he eats fewer peanut butter crackers.  He wants a sweet after dinner, then he eats less starch during dinner.  Obviously not all in the same day.  Get the idea?  He needs to see a certified nutritionist who can guide him in moderating the sweets and stopping the BG roller coaster that he’s on.  Talk to him about this, because what he’s doing is dangerous.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@edgebee:  That’s funny to me, my Fiance is type 1 and he never eats candy or any sweets. He said he thinks he just taught himself to be averse to them since they make him feel so crappy. It’s kind of funny too because I’m not a diabetic and I would never “go crazy” with a bag of snickers haha, but I see where you’re coming from. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Also, sugar is bad, but I have found starches are significantly worse for my blood sugar levels.  A fun size snickers gives me a short spike, but a bagel or pasta for dinner (ESPECIALLY whole grain) will shoot my sugars through the roof and keep it there for hours. Just a thought, alot of people think diabetics are supposed to stay away from candy, but its really not the whole story. 

sorry, I’ll put away the soap box now.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

sugar free candy is disgusting, without exception. and look at all the chemicals they have to substitue for the sugar.  I’m not a health nut, but thats a science experiment, not food.

@MariContrary: ‘s dad has it 100% right, its all about balance.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Is it possible that someone gave him the candy as a gift and he just shoved it in his closet? My Darling Husband has multiple boxes of Turtles that are randomly hanging around because our next door neighbour keeps giving them to him at Christmas. 

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