- 7 years ago
I need to vent and to get opinions…
My fiance and I dated for 6 years and had a very happy relationship. We have had our ups and downs just like any other couple.
The cause for many of our disagreements would usually boil down to his family. They did not like me because ultimately they didnt think I was really a Christian (which I am) and therefore said we were unequally yoked. When we got engaged, they told him he had made the biggest mistake of his life and that he should rethink what he is doing. He told them that he loves me and this is what he wants. Just as recently as last month, he told them that it was “us” or they couldn’t have either of us, meaning, accept me or they can’t have him either. To my knowledge, they said they didnt want to lose their son, so they agreed.
Out of the blue, a couple days ago, he pulled the rug out from under me. We had spoken briefly that morning before I worked and he was chipper and told me he loved me and wanted to see a movie that night. I agreed. 4 hours later, I called him and he said he had been out with his dad and brother. He then proceeded to tell me our relationship was over and that he hasn’t not been in love with me for the past 3 months! I asked him what about the flowers he had sent to my job recently, date nights, giving me money to go shopping, calling/texting every night like normal…he said he was just trying to be nice in hopes that he would change his mind.
This is completely out of character for him. I can’t even stress that enough. He told me to move on and meet someone else. He told me that he does not want to work on things and that we are not right for each other. Every other sentence was him saying that our relationship is not right or is not best. He said he could not explain it and that he had to finally do this. It was like talking to a different person than the one I had spoken to that morning and in the entirity of our relationship. He is adament that his family had nothing to do with this. I don’t know what it could be.
We are going to talk again in a month and see where things are at. He said its a possibility we could get back together, but that he doubts it.
Of course, I want to move on because I am so hurt and in so much pain, but I love this man and I want to be with him. I’ve never seen him like this and I fear it is the end.
He asked that I don’t block his number and don’t change my email, but if I call him within the one month break he will not pick up and if I text, he will text back, but not have a text conversation. He also said that if I need money, he will give it to me.