(Closed) Fiance father is getting deployed!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t expect him to be able to get back early from his deployment no matter what is going on.  They require people to stay a certain amount of time and I think it’s tough if not impossible to come back early.  I would change the date.

Post # 4
Member
581 posts
Busy bee

Please consider changing the date.  Four weeks further out is not that bad, and I’m sure your wedding will be lovely.  You’d be making your fiance and future in-laws very happy, and this is a small change in the bigger picture.

Post # 5
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2066 posts
Buzzing bee

Umm – if Future Father-In-Law is in the military he has ZERO control over his deployment date or when he returns from deployment.  I think you should switch your date so he can make it.  

Post # 6
Member
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A date is just a date.  It would be worse not have your Fiance dad there.  Deployments never can be counted on.  Don’t stress about it.  Its about being married and not how the weather will be.  Everything will be beautifull!!!

Post # 7
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5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Please consider changing the date, if your venue has no problem with it you shouldn’t either.  Think about what your Future Father-In-Law is doing for you and our country, I say the least you can do is change the date of your wedding so he can attend.  Don’t you and your Fiance want him there? 

Post # 8
Member
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

end if september in RI will still be beautiful. I LOVE september in our nj/ny/ct/ri area!! def change the date. you will regret it if you dont and its easier to do it now than later.

Post # 10
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2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I don’t really know how your FFIL’s situation is, but I know from my friends and future Brother-In-Law who are in the military that deployment dates can be very finicky.  Even if they are telling him now that he’ll be back on a certain date in Sept 2011, it will almost certainly change before he actually comes back.

I would still change the date, but even so, just remember that dates with the military change without warning sometimes. 🙂

Post # 11
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oo i don’t think sept 24 is enough time. id’ go for August just to be safe. My friends got married and the best man was the groom’s brother and he got deployed WEDNESDAY before the Saturday wedding as one of those “early september” kind of things.

Er on the side of caution. He’s not manipulating you guys, the military is goofy

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