(Closed) Fiance FINALLY gets it!! (sorry, long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OMG I love you and am sending you a hug too.

I went to bed early last night because I was getting so stressed and silently annoyed at Fiance. He subscribes to the same things just get done theory. My mistake was the night before asking him to make a list (he did, but of something completely unrelated) but you are much smarter and I love the way you did it.

Thank you for sharing!!

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This was AWESOME! Seriously, instead of just saying “there’s so much to do!” we should be showing our fiances exactly what needs to be done. You go girl. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

THANK YOU! I’m definitely going to try this.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Great idea. I’ve completely ignored the list on the knot (it scared the crap out of me), but reviewing it with Fiance will show him how much I’ve done (he has no idea) and WHY I need help. Thanks!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Fiance and his mother don’t get the importance of booking anything in time or preparing.  I bought certain things now because it needed to be done.  FI looked at me like I was crazy.  I wanted to smack him up side the head.  I broke down and cried one day because I told him I’m the only one who cares and is stressing over this wedding.  Everyone else is sitting around and waiting to plan it like it’s some birthday party.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Way to go!  You handled this perfectly.  So glad he finally saw the light.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

OMG.  We have the same fiance!  (Except mine did not tremble in fear at the list but instead tried to tell me we did not need to finish half done projects and should just skip them.)

Post # 14
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9642 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@megz06:  

You are brilliant, is all I have to say.  You handled that perfectly.  Applause!!!

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@megz06:  Let’s see, this won’t be complete but will give you a sample…

Thank Yous: In his opinion, can be mailed up to one year after the gift was received.  I’ve kept up on mine, and have managed to refrain from doing his (except one). 

Wedding day timeline: Not necessary, we’ll get off schedule anyways, why bother creating one?

Photography shot list: That’s why you hire a professional.  (Except we’ve got quasi professionals, and his parents are divorced and those pics need to be handled carefully, and some specific shots.)

Find pre/post ceremony music for our musicians: That’s why we hire professionals and doesn’t our college have that music (except, we didn’t, we hired students from the college who are great musicians – for example, first chair of the ivy league orchestra – but haven’t done weddings before and no they checked, the college doesn’t seem to have it.  btw, they’ve got finals then so they need it asap.  he thinks they don’t need to practice once either and can just sight read)

Decide if doing mother/son dance: He thinks he can decide the day of (and pick the song then)

Select music for rehearsal bbq/wedding: That’s what the DJ is for.  (Except, my aunt will request terrible songs if we don’t have a don’t play list.  And, no DJ at the 90 person bbq at my parents house, just the Ipod.)

Centerpieces: Maybe we shoudn’t pot flowers after all and get the florists to do them.  (Except…he is also freaked about the cost – which mind you, is on budget – plus I’m not sure the florist can do them at this late point.)

Put handprints on the “up mailbox”: I put our names on a mailbox, beautifully done if I say so myself, just needs the handprints.  He thinks we should scrap it entirely.  Or put out as is.

Plan our honeymoon: We can wait, we have time to book this.  (He thinks **a lot** of things can wait.  Please note my wedding date is less than 20 days out.  We’ve run out of time to procrastinate.)

There’s more, but that should give you a flavor!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kay01:  I can only say good luck!

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