(Closed) Fiance' going to a strip club for bachelor party.

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am confused…. you “knew” what a lap dance was and were completely cool with it before he went. Now you are not that he went…. and you don’t think its fair.

Um….were you really cool with it or not???

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Here we go again.. lol the age old debate.

Your feelings aren’t wrong, they’re just your feelings. They are as valid as anybody else’s. The Bees should know this, your fiance should know this, your family and friends should know this. If you feel a certain way, tell him! If he is already there right now, there’s not a whole lot you can do except guilt trip him after the fact. Maybe just explain to him how your feelings evolved on the idea (you weren’t expecting to be so upset) and although that’s not his fault you’d appreciate if he wouldn’t do it again (if that’s how you feel, that is.)

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

@sablemuse:  love this answer.  It’s not strange for your feelings to have changed.. you trust him and you were cool with it, but now it just doesn’t feel right to you.  That is perfectly fine and normal!

FWIW, I love and trust my Fiance too, but I can’t stand the thought of him in a strip club.  And he respects that and stays out of them (not that he has a ton of opportunities to go?).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh oh is this that same person that comes on and posts all that stripper stuff or is this a real person…?

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I also love and trust my Fiance but am not ok with him going to a strip club. And he doesn’t like strip clubs, and never wants to go to one

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

@sablemuse:  I don’t think it is very fair to guilt trip him after she gave her blessing to go in the first place but changed her mind once he was there! Taht is not a very healthy attitude to have towards a relationship!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@j_jaye:  Umm nobody said to guilt trip him… lol

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

@sablemuse:  If you feel a certain way, tell him! If he is already there right now, there’s not a whole lot you can do except guilt trip him after the fact.

Umm you did!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@j_jaye:  Obviously you’re reading the emphasis on my statement incorrectly. What I meant was that if he’s already there there’s not a lot of things to say that won’t guilt trip him, so maybe she can follow my advice on the next line explaining how to phrase it so that it’s not making him feel guilty (you know the part about “although it’s not his fault”) 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Edit: I re-read the original post, and judging by the wording @mrsbruff2b: you’re probably right.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do not engage.  This person has ONE post … and the tone of the post just sounds like baiting to me. *shrug*

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