(Closed) Fiance got me gift cards…is it bad that I'm upset?

posted 4 years ago in Holidays
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Not at all.  I would be hurt.  Is this common behavior for him?

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would be sad too.  My  love language is gifts and I would feel like he put zero thought into it, especially after talking it up so much. But maybe there is more coming? 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I wouldn’t be sad that he got me gift cards if he presented it in a cute way. Like babe I want you to love the new jacket I get you, so let’s go shopping together!! Then I would think it’s sweet as I love jackets. Even if he knows my brands, his gifts are always weird. 

Its the fact that he “tossed them” at you that would PISS ME OFF!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

You have every right to be pissed. Everyone always says ‘It’s not the gift, it’s the thought that counts’. I feel like your situation is exactly the opposite. He wasn’t very thoughtful at all, and the fact that he was bigging up your gifts, and then tossed some cards at you, sounds like he’s embarassed too.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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emsie :  Uhhhh…. Maybe wait till after Christmas is over to complain  about your gifts? There is still almost 24 hrs of Christmas left. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Seems kind of messed up that he talked up this supposed gift and then threw cards at you.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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emsie :  hmm 😕 idk then. I would still be ok with giftcards though But he shouldn’t have talked up the gift in this case. Weird. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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emsie :  I wouldn’t mind gift cards, but the lack of thought would pretty much make them worthless to me. My Fiance and I can’t spend a ton on Christmas since most of our extra money goes into savings but we still try to make it special for each other. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

is he the type to procrastinate? maybe he really wanted to do those things but something came up? I’d talk to him gently about how you feel whatever it is you’re feeling and see what his explanation is. did you guys get into some sort of fight that may have led him to act this way?

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Hmm… well maybe wait, maybe he ordered the earings and they have yet to arrive? Esp. if he has the 400$ credit, its likely he is planning on getting them for you.

What was his attitude when he gave you the cards? Is he low on cash these days?

A stressful job may contribute to his procrastination. I think you should be careful to make any quick judgements. If he really didn’t get you anything else, like i said i think you should discuss it with him. And later if you see that this is a behavior that he repeats then you’ll have to figure out if its indicitave of a larger character flaw and from there decide if its something you could live with. HOWEVER, I think its TOO EARLY to come to any conclusions. Sometimes people make mistakes, sometimes people are stressed out. Only you know what the deal is, and without a discussion with him it’ll be hard to gauge where he is coming from.

Did you get him anything?

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