Fiancé has been cheating with escorts!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
235 posts
Helper bee

Well, first of all, I am jealous that you live in remote Scotland. How beautiful! I would pretend I was Cathy Earnshaw everyday.

Ok anyway, back to your problem. I think you know the answer. You need to divorce. If not for you, do it for your children. They don’t deserve to grow up in a house filled with anger, resentment, and mistrust. And don’t you deserve a happy life? It seems monumental to leave, but millions of women have done it. You are not alone!

Post # 3
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Leave him. He’s making a fool of you. If you stay with him then he knows he can get away with it. 

Post # 4
177 posts
Blushing bee

Why are you saying fiancé and not ex-fiance?

Post # 5
6806 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Step #1: get tested. 

Step #2: pack up and leave. Or kick him out. Either way you know you need to end it. This type of relationship isn’t a good or healthy one (and it sounds like you’ve known that for a while) and you don’t want to raise kids in this type of environment. 

Post # 9
4864 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Lawyer up. No mercy. 

Post # 10
6806 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

collette1505 :  It’s great that you have a supportive family. That will definitely help. I know this isn’t easy but you’re doing the right thing. Best of luck to you Bee. 

Post # 11
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I know it isn’t so easy as people think to just pick up and leave, with 2 kids in tow. But cheating with escorts is a different thing from having one girlfriend he is cheating with. Neither thing is ideal, they are both hurtful in different ways. 

There is just something so cold and heartless about cheating with escorts. I agree you should be tested just to make sure. An in-house separation at least would be what I would want. Longer term discussions about how to split up would be in order, rather than just leaving in a huff. 

Post # 12
6444 posts
Bee Keeper

collette1505 :  I know it’s tough being so far away from family.  But it’s time to pack up and leave and get away from this man.  He doesn’t love you.  And he hasn’t probably since before he started cheating on you.

Post # 13
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

He is threatening your life just as much as if he were pointing a gun at you… leave now before he ‘gives’ you something that will really ruin your life and possibly the lives of your children.  Be strong and do what you know you must do.

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