Post # 1
So we live in the SF Bay area & we’ve been together 9 years. He’s worked on his fear a bit & we take road trips & even short plane trips – nothing over an hour. He said he thinks he can handle traveling out of state & even mentioned Canada. That is not my ideal honeymoon of course… but if that’s what it is, then that’s what it is…
I love to travel & although I wish he could join me, I take most of my trips with my sister or with friends. (Don’t worry, we’ve survived 9 years already & have even been through counseling around this) My ideal honeymoon would either be a beautiful, tropical, secluded beach or even better, wandering around Europe. But of course I know that isn’t going to happen…
So I’m wondering if any of you who are out of state (I don’t think he’s ready for the east coast) have any suggestions of beautiful places in the continental US. I’d love to be by the water or have a beautiful open view & to be on a resort. Since we live in CA, we do have some beautiful Beaches & of course wine country, but we go there all the time & I want to have the feeling of being away from home, or experiencing something brand new together.
Thanks for any ideas!!
Post # 4
What about Palm Springs? There are some really cool resorts there, and there are national parks close by. Still in state, too!
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
My Boyfriend or Best Friend has a really hard time with planes… then a doctor prescribed Vallium. Works like magic! He’ll be loopy like a circus clown, but at least he’s not unhappy 🙂
Post # 6
He does take xanax when we travel. Unfortunately the fear before going and making plans is still there… He is pretty loopy too!! 😉
Post # 7
How far out of state will he go?
Post # 8
What about this place? http://www.postranchinn.com/
It’s quite pricey, but it’s also close enough that you could drive there, and secluded enough that you would feel away from home.
It’s also gorgeous!
Post # 9
My mom is so bad with flying. We cannot even talk about it on the phone. It’s the F word in our family.
The anxiety leading up to the days prior to even buying the ticket are when she really needs to start her Xanax. Would he get on Xanax really early on?
Or would you drive somewhere? Heck we drove 15 HOURS to Canada for our honeymoon, so everything else seems easy to me! So nice to have your own car. It cost us proably $350 in gas to go 2500 miles, so much less than airfare and car rental!
Post # 10
Can y’all do that island off the coast of California? I can’t think of the name of it, but cruise ships travel to it and it starts with a B.
I get travel anxiety. If it’s gonna be a super long distance. And I get anxious about leaving my pets. But I can handle it as long as I don’t have to drive 14 hours or fly that long.
Post # 12
Could you drive to Mexico or take a cruise that leaves from SF area?
Post # 13
OK, so this may be a little too far for him, but it could be a good compromise:
You mentioned Canada. Why not go up to Quebec City? It is still in North America, but it is pretty close (culturally) to Europe. I have been all over Europe, and I tell you, when you are walking through Vieux-Quebec (the old part of town), it really can pass for France! It is absolutely beutiful up there! I spent a summer up there a few years ago. You can also go whale watching. It gorgeous!
Post # 14
Thanks so much everyone for the tips! You have all been a big help!! I’ve had so much wedding planning on my mind that the honeymoon has fallen behind, but with our challenges, it’s really something we need to start thinking about.
@Lemma: We have looked at Post Ranch online. It’s absolutely amazing!! And I’m pretty sure a honeymoon would be the only time in the near future we could afford that! I will keep it in mind as an option if we don’t end up going too far.
@fishbone: I’m not totally sure. He’s mentioned Arizona, New Mexico & Utah. I think it just needs to be a place he can get excited about. That makes a big difference in his motivation!
@sienna76: Driving is an option for sure. I’d rather fly of course, but mostly just want to get somewhere!! 😉 I think you’re right about the xanax early on. Maybe I’ll get him to take one & then decide 😉
@honeybee1999: & @sunitagt: Would you believe Catalina is where he had his first anxiety attack!? He was a teenager & his family took him on a trip there. I have mentioned it but he still has bad feelings about it. Maybe someday…
@crystalrae: That is one thing I’m trying to get him to consider. Since Canada is on his mind, I feel like a cruise up there would be a great compromise. I get water & he gets Canada!
@nutMeg13: Thank you! I haven’t looked into that! I will google some pictures & see what he says!