(Closed) Fiancé hasn't seen me without makeup.

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 106
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My husband never really seems to notice if I’m wearing any makeup or not. I’ve gotten mad at him for not noticing that I put in the effort and looked pretty! 😁 2 years married and now I hardly ever wear any at all. My skin has definitely improved. 

Post # 107
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

brunettebridehere :  Can we see a photo of you with and without make up on?????? I am sure you are beautiful! 

Post # 108
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Hi! I went through a similar situation because I have eczema and acne. When I used to date, I would always carry a small container of foundation and I would go to the bathroom in the middle of the night or before the guy wakes up to make sure my face still looks good haha. I had a traumatic experience once and was very hurt when this one guy I was dating just “vanished” from me and I think because he saw my real face. (It happened when I got out in the middle of my shower to open the front door for him because he forgot his keys or something, now imagine me with my makeup and mascara smearing.) When I started dating my now fiancé, I was nervous about letting him see “the real me” but knew I couldn’t hide forever. So like some other ppl here mentioned, I would slowly take away some makeup. Initially after I shower, I would just gently apply some light BB cream foundation and then wipe it away with a damp tissue to look “more natural”. 😛 Well my fiancé never gave me any look or comment on how I looked different and that gave me the confidence that he accepted me for who I am and I slowly wore less makeup. Now he tells me all the time I look more beautiful without makeup and even though I don’t agree haha but it makes me feel wonderful. 🙂 I am sure your fiancé loves you for who you are , so have confidence and try to take it slowly step by step so it’s a less dramatic transition but don’t hide it forever. 🙂

Post # 109
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

brunettebridehere :  If he’s a good man (and since you haven’t told us anything to suggest otherwise), he will love you for who you are: with or without makeup. No need to worry! xoxo

Post # 110
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I dont mean to sound harsh, but if you cant even let him see you without make up your marriage is never going to last…. He loves you, not for your make up, but for you. Im sure he can handle it. dont make a big deal about it. If you do, then he will. once you do it a few times im sure you will get used to it and it will be routine. You cant hide for the rest of your life. like other sais that sounds exhausting. 

Post # 111
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

VintageGirl1020 :  i agree i want to see your with and without so we can assure you, that you are fine!

Post # 112
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: A restaurant on the beach

dearyme :  This is so true. I recently cut 6 inches from my hair and the Fiance didn’t notice at all. We’ve been dating over 10 years and he never notices makeup, hair cuts, anything lol

To the OP, take it all off and show him before the wedding. You don’t want to be accused of false advertising. But I’m pretty sure he’ll hardly notice the difference. If he’s like every other man I know he’ll prefer you natural. 

Post # 113
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

ljm308 :  thats a good man!!! and your right, men dont give a crap! lol 

Post # 114
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I disagree with a number of posts above.  We don’t need to see pictures of you with or without makeup on to make some determination about your next course of action. 

I’ve been through this too.  Try getting up with him at a similar time, stepping out of the shower when he is in the bathroom, and get ready with him there.  It’s an easy first step and will allow you to put your makeup on soon after your reveal. 

Once he sees you doing this regularly, it’s up to you how you want to present yourself to the world.  Makeup or not. 

Post # 115
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Worker bee

Ugh, I forgot how sanctimonious women who don’t wear makeup can be. Thanks to many posters in this thread for reminding me 🙄

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