(Closed) Fiance is hiding weed …

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@Beebee225:  If I were you, I would be far more concerned about that fact that your fiance is someone of the character that thinking lying to you is okay than some weed.  Lying is a big deal and obviously he is showing you that he has no problem lying to you.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

@Beebee225:  You should simply say “hey I found a bag of weed in your car–whose is it?” If he has friends that smoke, it could absolutely be theirs. Don’t jump to conclusions, but be honest and talk about it ASAP. That wouldn’t be something for me to just turn a blind eye to. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you don’t know that it is your fiance’s weed, how is he lying to you?

If it’s his friends’ weed, there’s a chance he doesn’t know about it, or simply forgot about it.

Either way, I’d dispose of it if I were you.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh jeez, this is unlikely, but my mind immediately jumped to the scenario of you driving his car one day, getting pulled over and that being found. He OWES you the truth, especially if it could lead to legal trouble for either of you. Plus people in a relationship should be honest with each other. I would confront him, definitely.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You need to ask him if it’s his before anything else, then reevaluate based on the response. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@redheadem:  The police, at least in the US need to have a reason to search the car. Obviously this is null and void if she reached for the insurance and a big ol’ bag of weed falls out of the glove box, but it isn’t like a cop can go, “Hey, I think I’ll search your car today!”

Plus, you have the right to refuse a search.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Hyperventilate:  I know, but imagine looking through the glove compartment for the registration and that falls out!! Ouch.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just ask him about it. To me it could be either scenario:

it really isn’t his and one of his friends accidentally left it in his car or

he’s been “projecting” his feelings about weed onto you and he doesn’t like that he does it and constantly feels guilty about hiding it from you, thus the speeches about weed being a dealbreaker.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Beebee225:  My Fiance and I both agreed like you and your Fiance that we would never date someone who smoked weed, cigarettes or anything. Smoking just grosses us completely out. Now, if it was me I would have immediately been all over him, but that is just me. I’m not rational and i’d be LIVID and jumping to conclusions. Now, if you know he has friends and a brother that smoke, there is a good chance that it is his. However, you still have every right to be mad.. It is in your FI’s car and even if its not his, if he got pulled and the police found it he would be in serious trouble!! I would DEF. bring it up to him. I guess don’t go “crazy” like I probably would but just simply let him know that you found it and get to the bottom of why its there. If he is lying to you and it is his, you might want to seriously evaluate your relationship.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BlondeMissMolly:  Agreed. Don’t jump to conclusions, it’ll make you look silly – but don’t ignore it either. Just talk to him.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would hide it and replace it with a little note saying ‘missing something?’

But I’m a bitch like that.

The problem you have is because his brothers and friends smoke it, it will be very easy for him to say ‘it’s their weed’.

If he does admit that it is his, make sure your argument is based on the lies- not the fact that he’s smoking.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just talk to him about it…maybe he was afraid to tell you the truth from the beginning because he feared he would lose you.

ETA: no need for weed haters to start preaching, this really isn’t about that…how annoying!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Talk to him with a cool head. Lying is the potential problem here (if that turns out to be the case), plus I have to agree with what Redheadem pointed out: what if you were in a situation where you got pulled over and it fell out of the glovebox in front of a cop? That. would. suck.

Post # 16
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Worker bee

I don’t think you’re over reacting. I agree with the pp’s, just ask him about it in a non accusatory tone. Hopefully, it’s just a friends.

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