Post # 1
So, if this post is something that is common sense for most people I am sorry, I have only been in one wedding and FH hasn’t been in any so we don’t have much experience in this category as we are both quite young. My FH is in a wedding soon and I am unsure of what I am supposed to do that day? So I am guessing what normally happens is in the morning he will go get ready with the rest of the guys and I will drive myself to the wedding ceremony right before it starts. What am I supposed to do after the ceremony? Am I supposed to hang out for the pictures and stuff? Go to cocktail hour if there even is one? Doesn’t the wedding party normally bar hop before they go to the reception? I think that is normally customary in my area. Just not sure what my role is that day being the SO of someone in the wedding party. If I should just be like any other guest or stick around when they are doing stuff. Thanks!
Post # 2
I’ve never heard of a wedding party going bar hopping between the ceremony and reception (??).
Your “role” at the wedding is a guest. So you attend the ceremony, have a drink at cocktail hour (if there is one), then enjoy the reception.
Post # 3
I think usually what happens in my area is the wedding party takes there pictures then loads up in the limo or party bus and goes to each bar in town and has a shot at each one. That is what I have heard anyways. I just didn’t know if I was supposed to go to this or go on the party bus or anything? It is still a little ways out, just didn’t know if I need to make plans to ride with anyone so I won’t be alone the entire day or if I would be included when they do the activities.
Post # 4
Chances are, if you’re not in the wedding party, you wont be asked to hang around for pictures. If the reception doesnt immediately follow the ceremony, I suggest you find a coffee shop, some where to have a cocktail, bring a book etc. It sucks, and thats why I’ve always hated the gap between ceremony and reception. Technically you are like every other guest.
Ps. I’ve never heard of the Bridal party bar hopping before the reception. I’d personally like them to be somewhat sober esp. if they’re giving speeches during dinner.
Post # 5
Just do what the other guests do. As your Fiance will be otherwise engaged with his duties just treat it like a wedding you’re going to as a single guest….until the evening when he’ll be freer to hang out with you.
Post # 6
I have never heard of bar hopping for a wedding party.
You would show up for the ceremony, enjoy a cocktail hour, mingle with the guests. He will be taking photos at that time. Then you can meet back up at the reception and share a few dances :-). I have gone to a wedding before solo, and it was great! Just make the best of it!
Post # 7
Thanks for the responses. I can already tell I am going to hate this down time, since I am not close with anyone else at the event. I was hoping it was customary for SO’s to tag along with the wedding party. lol
Yes, I know it sound’s crazy that they do shots before the wedding but there is only 3 bars in our small town and they are all on the same block so they aren’t getting super drunk, just taking an edge off before the wedding. It just stinks because it adds extra time when they could just go straight to the reception.
Post # 8
When my DH was a groomsmen, he got ready at home and then went over to the hotel to meet the groom and other groomsmen for photos. Since DH left hours earlier, I drove myself to the wedding venue when it was time to begin. I will either sit with people I know or if there isn’t really anyone I know, I will sit on the grooms side of the aisle and sit next to someone random.
After the wedding, my DH has had to stay behind to help and take pics before the reception. So I have waited and watched everyone take pictures and once they were done, my DH and I will drive to the reception together. Or if there are people I know, I will leave and go to the reception with them and then meet up with my DH at the reception venue once he was finished.
Now at the reception, I have always sat with my DH regardless if he was groomsmen or not. It’s important to introduce yourself and meet other people sitting at your table because as a groomsmen, your Fiance will probably have to get up to do stuff throughout the evening and will leave you sitting alone. Usually during those times I’m by myself, I will either chat with the other people sitting at our table until my DH gets back or I will occupy myself by taking pics of my DH and the reception. My fav thing to do is to get on the dance floor and boogey with other guests while my DH is busy.
But try to have fun at the wedding! It is a big party afterall 🙂 You can also look to see what elements of the wedding you like/don’t like while you are there to help you figure out how you want your wedding to be.
Post # 9
Yea, unfortunatly you dont really have any role, you just have to basically act like a guest who came alone. Hopefully, your Fiance gets to sit with you during dinner and doesnt have to sit away from you with the wedding party.
Post # 10
This is common in my area, that you do go bar hopping if there is time between the ceremony and reception. Sometimes it’s just a couple bars along the way, but no one should have getting too drunk in that amont of time… unless they’re taking shot after shot.
Our reception was at a hotel, so we hung out in the bar before our social hour started and we were greeting guests.
So, if you’re not invitied along with the Bridal Party to do this (DH was invited along in the last wedding I was in, and so were other SO’d of the party), then you’ll just have to find something to do in between.
Post # 11
Three shots and I’m down, so I laughed when you wrote “take the edge off”:-) I agree with PP that you are a guest, I wouldn’t plan to tag along to the bar hopping unless invited.
Post # 12
Yeah, it kinda sucks, but you really shouldn’t tag along with the bridal party. Are there other girlfriend’s or FI’s of the rest of the groomsmen, or boyfriends of the bridesmaids? maybe you can sit together and chat during the downtime. I’m assuming there is a rehearsal dinner that you would be invited to, so hopefully you can meet them there.
Post # 13
Act like any other guest. However, at a wedding where my former SO was a Groomsmen and I didn’t know anyone I asked if the couple needed help with setup or anything during that gap. I ended up helping her aunts and cousins put out centerpieces etc. – and then I had some other people I knew at the wedding. If you’re down for helping at all it might be appreciated.
Post # 14
I was also going to ask that and I forgot! Is it customary for the SO to go to the rehearsal dinner and the wedding rehearsal the day before?
Post # 15
Is this in Wisconsin? That’s the only place I’ve ever heard of the bar hopping between ceremony and reception.
And yes, the whole wedding party is usually wasted by the time the reception rolls around.