(Closed) Fiance is in a wedding soon….

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve never heard of a wedding party going bar hopping between the ceremony and reception (??).


Your “role” at the wedding is a guest. So you attend the ceremony, have a drink at cocktail hour (if there is one), then enjoy the reception. 

Post # 4
1377 posts
Bumble bee

Chances are, if you’re not in the wedding party, you wont be asked to hang around for pictures. If the reception doesnt immediately follow the ceremony, I suggest you find a coffee shop, some where to have a cocktail, bring a book etc. It sucks, and thats why I’ve always hated the gap between ceremony and reception. Technically you are like every other guest.

Ps. I’ve never heard of the Bridal party bar hopping before the reception. I’d personally like them to be somewhat sober esp. if they’re giving speeches during dinner.

Post # 5
6237 posts
Bee Keeper

Just do what the other guests do. As your Fiance will be otherwise engaged with his duties just treat it like a wedding you’re going to as a single guest….until the evening when he’ll be freer to hang out with you. 

Post # 6
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I have never heard of bar hopping for a wedding party.


You would show up for the ceremony, enjoy a cocktail hour, mingle with the guests. He will be taking photos at that time. Then you can meet back up at the reception and share a few dances :-). I have gone to a wedding before solo, and it was great! Just make the best of it!

Post # 8
1524 posts
Bumble bee

When my DH was a groomsmen, he got ready at home and then went over to the hotel to meet the groom and other groomsmen for photos. Since DH left hours earlier, I drove myself to the wedding venue when it was time to begin.  I will either sit with people I know or if there isn’t really anyone I know, I will sit on the grooms side of the aisle and sit next to someone random.

After the wedding, my DH has had to stay behind to help and take pics before the reception.  So I have waited and watched everyone take pictures and once they were done, my DH and I will drive to the reception together.  Or if there are people I know, I will leave and go to the reception with them and then meet up with my DH at the reception venue once he was finished.

Now at the reception, I have always sat with my DH regardless if he was groomsmen or not.  It’s important to introduce yourself and meet other people sitting at your table because as a groomsmen, your Fiance will probably have to get up to do stuff throughout the evening and will leave you sitting alone.  Usually during those times I’m by myself, I will either chat with the other people sitting at our table until my DH gets back or I will occupy myself by taking pics of my DH and the reception.  My fav thing to do is to get on the dance floor and boogey with other guests while my DH is busy.

But try to have fun at the wedding!  It is a big party afterall 🙂  You can also look to see what elements of the wedding you like/don’t like while you are there to help you figure out how you want your wedding to be.  

Post # 9
2848 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Yea, unfortunatly you dont really have any role, you just have to basically act like a guest who came alone. Hopefully, your Fiance gets to sit with you during dinner and doesnt have to sit away from you with the wedding party.

Post # 10
4885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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soontobeericab :  This is common in my area, that you do go bar hopping if there is time between the ceremony and reception. Sometimes it’s just a couple bars along the way, but no one should have getting too drunk in that amont of time… unless they’re taking shot after shot.

Our reception was at a hotel, so we hung out in the bar before our social hour started and we were greeting guests.

So, if you’re not invitied along with the Bridal Party to do this (DH was invited along in the last wedding I was in, and so were other SO’d of the party), then you’ll just have to find something to do in between.

Post # 11
11363 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Three shots and I’m down, so I laughed when you wrote “take the edge off”:-) I agree with PP that you are a guest, I wouldn’t plan to tag along to the bar hopping unless invited.

Post # 12
2617 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Yeah, it kinda sucks, but you really shouldn’t tag along with the bridal party.  Are there other girlfriend’s or FI’s of the rest of the groomsmen, or boyfriends of the bridesmaids?  maybe you can sit together and chat during the downtime.  I’m assuming there is a rehearsal dinner that you would be invited to, so hopefully you can meet them there.

Post # 13
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Act like any other guest. However, at a wedding where my former SO was a Groomsmen and I didn’t know anyone I asked if the couple needed help with setup or anything during that gap. I ended up helping her aunts and cousins put out centerpieces etc. – and then I had some other people I knew at the wedding. If you’re down for helping at all it might be appreciated. 

Post # 15
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016


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soontobeericab :  Is this in Wisconsin? That’s the only place I’ve ever heard of the bar hopping between ceremony and reception.

And yes, the whole wedding party is usually wasted by the time the reception rolls around.

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