(Closed) Fiance is in a wedding soon….

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 46
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

After reading your responses, I think there is more to it than you just don’t know what you’re supposed to do.

Are your feelings hurt that you weren’t asked to be a bridesmaid? Or do you not want your fiancé hanging around and dancing with the other girls in the wedding party without you there? Just seems like there’s more to it.

Post # 47
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

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soontobeericab :  If it’s a few hours, then why not just go back to your hotel and chill?

Maybe try to be a little more understanding of the various needs the couple is trying to balance in planning their day. A groomsman’s girlfriend being a little bored is not really a priority for them. I think maybe your expectations were a little off here?

Post # 48
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I am familiar with the bridal party bar hopping after the ceremony. One wedding my SO was in and I wasn’t, I attended the wedding just as a guest, I didn’t go on the bus with the bridal party, etc.

The second time, I was invited on the bus as my Fiance guest. I was invited by the bride and groom bit would of been ok either way.

I guess you should get more clarification on this, but if I wasn’t told otherwise I’d not plan to be on the party bus.

Post # 49
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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MrsSMFC :  I get this feeling too..

OP, as others said, go to the ceremony. After find a bar, go shopping, get coffee, read a book, watch photos get taken, go to a movie, go for a walk.

I’ve been to many events such as weddings, work parties, social gatherings where I knew only my husband or no one at all and it was just fine.



Post # 51
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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soontobeericab :  you won’t spend your night alone, you’ll spend the ceremony and the dinner alone and then you’ll be with your Fiance for the rest of it.

If SO or I are in a wedding party and the other isn’t, we usually just chill at home/hotel and then show up to cocktail hour toward the end. Usually the wedding party makes it for the tail end of cocktail hour (sometimes for more than that because the Bride and Groom are off having their photos done and the Wedding Party is released to have fun!)

Sitting at the +1 table during dinner is usually a blast, everyone is in the same boat as you and they can be a lot of fun with everyone making conversation and drinking too much to feel comfortable, lol. Plus I’m sure your Fiance will stop by to see you during the meal 🙂


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