(Closed) Fiance is in wedding but I am not

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee

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kelsina:  I’ve been in a few situations where my now-DH was a groomsman and I knew next to no one. The first time it was for an old high school friend of his that I’d met once, but I knew no guests other than other groomsmen. I got to know another of the groomsmen’s Girlfriend and we spent most of the weekend hanging out while the guys were busy.

Another time, same situation: knew then-FI’s parents and a few groomsmen, but no one else. At that wedding, I was seated at a table of significant others of the bridal party and we had a blast since we all were strangers and all were solo for dinner. It’s really not that bad. Grab a drink, chat up someone else who’s alone and have fun hanging out until your Fiance is free to join you. Inevitably, the bridal party gets sick of sitting at the head table and comes to join their dates or friends.

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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kelsina:  I think you can make the best of it even if you don’t get to eat together. I was lucky enough to sit with my old coach and his wife and friends but if you’re outgoing and make the effort to strike up conversations with the other guests at your table, then I think you’ll be just fine! 

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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stardustintheeyes:  I was not referring to the rehearsal but the rehearsal dinner. I also feel its rude that you have to send a text out to “remind” people they arent allowed to bring their spouse – when it was clearly stated on the invite who was invited. 

Post # 36
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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kelsina:  This would be a good opportunity then to socialize and get to know the bridal party a bit if you don’t already know them. That way, come the wedding, you have already broken the ice. I wouldn’t view that as a bad thing like your coworker did. I would have taken that opportunity to make some good introductions and get over the initial awkwardness of not knowing them. But I guess maybe if you’re a shy person (i’m definitely not) this might be difficult. 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House

I am inviting all spouses of the bridal party to the rehearsal dinner. However our getting ready set up is unique since everything is at the same place. So the spouses can get ready in their rooms and be fine. No driving. And I would expect they will enjoy the cocktail hour while we take pictures. However, out of 10 bridal party members (5 Bridesmaid or Best Man, 5 GM), only 3 have SOs not in the wedding party and one of those is my Brother-In-Law who will be watching over their 4 month old child at the wedding as well so I think he’ll be plenty busy.

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