- 2 years ago
- Wedding: February 2020
My fiance is frustrating me with this wedding planning. First we changed the date of our wedding from Feb 2020 to Jan 2019. That is fine with me, we both have elderly relatives who we want at our wedding and there is a few who have bad health issues.
Now today I am feeling the pressure to start tackling the big tasks. Only thing we have done is booked our receception venue. For the past three months we have been “planning” to see our pastor and to book our local church. The one time we did go to see him, he wasn’t there as he was giving last rites. F has not bothered to even mention going to see him and I’m the one that keeps reminding F we have to see our pastor.
Secondly I’m feeling pissed off. When we got engaged I asked my bridal party within two weeks. Three months later F had picked who was in his party but he had been plodding along and I had to tell him in front of his friends to ask them to be his groom’s men. One friend had been putting out the feelers to see if he was being asked. It was so obvious even a dog would know what he was doing. F didn’t even cotton on and I had to straight out say “W you have to ask T now.”
F was all sheepish and said “Hyacinthandlavender wants me to ask you to be in my party.” Okay I get it, weddings are over whelming.
Today my mother has asked about the wedding planning and I said F has not really done anything except picked colors, buy the wedding bands, look at some wedding favours and suggest songs to play at reception. My mother asked straight out if he really wants to get married and F insists he does. She suggested I call up the remaining groom’s men to ask if they would be in his party.
I did that after dinner with F beside me on loudspeaker. I told him what I was doing, he started to stutter and again said “Hyacinthandlavender wants me to ask you to be in my party.”
That really ticked me off, it looks like I”m the one forcing the idea of marriage. He did not need to mention my name, all he had to do was just ask. They said yes anyway, it wasn’t hard.
I’m starting to get frustrated as family and friends have been asking my mother about what is going on as they have not received invites or anything. I can’t send out invites until we book our pastor and church. I know of three other brides who got engaged around the same time as I did and they already have everything booked and set.
It is even up to me to plan the hens/bucks party. When I ask what he wants to do he just sits there like a dope and shrugs his shoulders. His friends and my dad asked him what he wants to do for his bucks party and again he just mumbles “I don’t know.”
The thing is he wants the wedding and do all the fun stuff but he isn’t putting in barely any effort to plan and book things.
Sorry I am just getting it out there. I need to vent. Just thinking about it is bringing me to tears. I must add we have been together for close to 15 years.