Post # 16
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I’ve never really gotten used to it so I don’t call him that. I call him by his name. If it’s the first time I’m talking to someone about him, I’ll say “my fiance, his name” and just refer to him by his name after that. Fiance just does not roll off the tongue easily for me.
Post # 17
My wedding is next week, and I’m still not used to it! I can only imagine how long it will take to get used to saying “husband!”
Post # 18
I also felt weird about it and would say it with a phony French accent everytime for the whole engagement lol.
Post # 19
stephlynn : I totally get that. It feels weird calling my SO “boyfriend” and I rarely call him that because it always seemed so teenager to me and he’s a lot more than just that to me.
Post # 20
lol, just wait till you get to trying out “husband”. I’m still getting used to saying and hearing it.
Post # 21
- Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion
Yes, it’s a weird word. I rarely say it. More often, I say “Beyonce” as a joke. I don’t plan to ever get used to it as we are getting married this winter. “Husband” sounds much more normal. He is already calling me “Mrs. ___” and sometimes calls me his wife. I’m fine with skipping the Fiance stage.
Post # 22
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
I said partner most of the time. My Darling Husband can’t remember calling me his Fiance either. When I said fiancé when booking stuff etc people would congratulate me and I found that strange as they didn’t know how long we’d been engaged or anything.
Now “husband” still feels weird nearly 3 months in. First time (after wedding) my Darling Husband said “my wife” was on our honeymoon when he was booking me a spa treatment. It was a great feeling. I say “husband” not “partner” now.
Post # 23
I can’t say it without putting on this ridiculous hick accent and making it sound like Beyoncé. Feeee-yon-say. He gets called my partner to strangers.
Post # 24
We don’t like the word fiancé so we just kept calling each other bee, or fee (for fiancé) and I just used his name when talking about people. We much prefer husband/wife.
Post # 25
We aren’t officially/formally engaged yet, but I already feel weird just thinking it in my head. Like PPs said, feels pretentious somehow, even though I have never once thought someone else sounded pretentious saying it! Maybe there’s just an adjustment period?
Post # 26
we’ve been engaged for a year and a half and it still feels weird when i say it, and when i hear him call me his fiance. i agree with it feeling a bit pretentious and i dont even know why. i usually just refer to him by name.
Post # 27
It has been weird for me. I feel a bit pretentious saying it. That being said, it’s been useful for getting important documents filed on my FIANCE’s behalf 🙂
Post # 28
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
Fiance was ok for me. The HARD one was husband/wife. The first time Darling Husband refered to me as his ‘wife’ in front of me was on our honeymoon while talking to the concierge at the hotel we stayed at. I actually did a double take!
Post # 29
myabi2796 : yea I hardly every used it or said it. I just used boyfriend. Saying husband took getting used to but didn’t take long 🙂
Post # 30
RobbieAndJuliahaha : Yep. Elaine all the way for me too!
We were only engaged for about 4 months, but I pretty much never called Darling Husband “fiance”. It sounds so pretentious to me.