Fiance just dropped a bomb

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 61
341 posts
Helper bee

I have been kind of in the same situation that your fiance is in. I was in a relationship where I cared dearly for the other person but was not in love with them. I didn’t want to lose our relationship but it never felt right. It started to get serious and conversations about moving in together finally forced me to reconcile that it was not meant to be. Ending it was hard. We were good together so everyone was really confused, including my ex. I was sad for the loss of the friendship but kind of relieved too.

You need to move on from this. Find someone who can be authentic in their love for you.

Post # 62
12 posts

I’m jumping in late, so I’m sure this has already been said, but let me repeat…there is another woman. A man NEVER does this out of the blue or for no reason. There’s a reason alright, and eventually you’ll see him with her and all your questions will be answered. 

I am so sorry, but thank your stars this didn’t happen after you were married. That would have been hell on wheels. 

Love and peace to you, Bee.

Post # 63
10506 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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indigobee :  

It wasn’t me regarding the conciliatory behaviour when young. I always had pride ,and fear of humiliation and would never have allowed it. Did many silly things, but hanging around waiting ti be found attractive again was not one of them lol.

Post # 64
1155 posts
Bumble bee

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elderbee :  

Sorry. This is the problem when you don’t tag the person you are talking about in your comment! You sometimes get it wrong 😀

Post # 65
7567 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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strawberrysakura :  Yes to all of this. Your post, IMO, was spot on. I think way too often on here posters are grasping at straws looking for perspective that alligns with what they *want* to hear, and each updating post is filled with “but we had so many great times” or “I love him so much” or “well he suffers from depression”. I’m a firm believer in the truth even when it’s hard to hear. 

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