- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
Ok, I do understand there’s always somehing to work on a relationship. Therefore it can’t be perfect when you get married. But there has to be a common understanding of terms… Sure: planning a wedding is event planning, but it it an event that was for BOTH of you, and I’m assuming that her excitement about it came from how much she cared about YOU. Listen, there are thousands of ways to bond over wedding planning, however fancy, simple, big or small you want to make it. And in a sense, planning your wedding also reveals a lot about your communication skills and problem solving as a couple.
Now, about your everyday life: Come on! If you weren’t working on your issues when she addressed them, how did you expect “your love to overcome everything with time”? It’s not 90 second rice that you just shove in the oven and do absolutely nothing about it.
And in regards to her work, “not realizing you were going to miss her that much” is called Real Life. Good for you for that trip to Europe. But you will not be living in a trip to Europe for the rest of your lives.
Anyway… I don’t want to be reactive and respond thoroughly to all of your points, because I’d be echoing what many bees have said and supported so far. I’m just curious about something:
In specific, tangible terms WHAT DID YOU WANT FROM HER? No, and “work on the relationship” isn’t an answer. Be specific. What does that mean for you anyway?
Did you ever aske in specific terms for what you wanted? what was your response?
Listen… Yo have been REALLY vague with us. And we can all pull our best guesswork and try to give you advice, unless you work with us for a second and speak in mundane, down-to-earth terms and cut the philosophical, hipstery jargon.