Fiance left me

posted 11 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
Member
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

You are definitely better off! Losing someone you thought you would spend your life with hurts, no way around it.

But this isnt the happy story you deserve, and leaving this unhappy situation makes you available to meet the right person who can make you happy.

 

Post # 3
Member
2806 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

browncoat :  Sounds like it’s been a long time coming, good for you for leaving, this guy sounds like an asshole. Best of luck to you.

Post # 4
Member
275 posts
Helper bee

You are definitely better off!! He sounds like a total loser. 

Post # 5
Hostess
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

browncoat :  babe, you don’t need to go into ANY more detail. This guy sounds like a dickhead. You are 100000% better off without him. 

Post # 6
Member
1683 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

I’m sorry you went through this. I didn’t read your original post, but I don’t have to read it to know you’re better off without him.

He comes crawling back to you and then isn’t willing to accept or even acknowledge your (extraordinarily reasonable) terms? Fuck that noise. He wants a doormat, not a partner. 

You made the right choice. I know it was probably very hard and painful, but staying with him was never going to go well. Even if he had said all the right things when you laid it all out for him, I’d be willing to bet that given a few months he’d go right back to the way he was. This would have been a point of contention for the rest of your relationship.

Things can only go up from here, Bee. Live your life, enjoy yourself. Focus on making yourself happy now.

Post # 7
Member
940 posts
Busy bee

By looking at that previous post, looks like you made the right decision to move away and just let it be. It has been rough for you and will be rough, but once youre over this patch, bee, you may look back and think, wow, I dodged a bullet right there. 

Best wishes bee. Its far better now than having these problems after marriage. He shows great immaturity in reasoning, logic and sympathy. He was pulling you and keeping you down for far too long. You need a partner, a teammate, not someone who doesnt have a backbone in his own relationship. 

 

Xoxo

Post # 8
Member
211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

You can do better and you deserve better. You doged a bullet by not marrying this guy. Go out and enjoy yourself.

Post # 9
Member
2296 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

browncoat :  You are always better of without someone who treats you like you are disposable. 

To tell someone you want to be single, and to leave, is a TREMENDOUSLY SERIOUS STEP. The fact he did it in such a cavalier way tells you everything you need to know about how deeply he considered it first. That he then thought he could just take it all back on a whim shows how little he thinks of your own right to self-determination. 

A marriage should be a partnership. You should put each other first, and defend one another against all comers. The fact he wouldnt do that- the fact he dismissed you when you confronted him about it – tells you he didn’t see fit to take your side when you were being attacked. You need that like a hole in the head. 

It is always better to be single than to be with someone who isn’t fully on your side and in your corner. You can devote all your time and attention to taking excellent care of yourself instead of being constantly let down by someone who doesn’t care enough to try. 

You’re better off. I promise. 

Post # 11
Member
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Ummm I would’ve been gone with the pretend dump.  I don’t do games.  Girl you stayed in this relationship waaaaaay longer than you ever should’ve.

It might not seem like it now but you dodged a major bullet.  Its sad because based upon your last update, he knows he needs help and is refusing to get it.  Block him from your phone, FB, Insta…whatever way he has of reaching you.

Post # 12
Member
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Wow he sounds like such a fucking loser! Girl, you dodged a bullet the size of a meteor!!!! In all honesty, he sounds abusive. Thank your lucky stars you broke up before you got married or had kids. You’re so much better off without him or his asshole family. Your life would have been so much worse if you’d stayed with him. Always remember that! You’ll meet someone so much better! He will hoenstly probably be alone forever, and if he does find someone that poor woman will be tormented just like you were. 

Post # 13
Member
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Good for you, sounds like you feel you made a good decision for yourself. Have fun focusing on yourself and not this guy’s drama!

Post # 15
Member
323 posts
Helper bee

You’re courageous for finally making the cut! You will find a better man. Congratulations on beginning a better chapter of your life – new adventures await you 🙂 the past is what it is don’t look back regretting your decisions.. think forwards and move onwards!

Leave a comment


Find Amazing Vendors