- 11 months ago
I’ve had issues with my (now ex) fiance for quite some time now. Basically, he let his family walk all over me and wouldn’t stand up for me. I had posted about it 10 months ago here: https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/in-law-problems-need-reassurancesupport/#post-11242049
He left me about a month ago. We didn’t even have a real discussion about it. He just told me one day that he wanted to be single, and that he was going to stay at a friends place for a while. He told me to take my time moving out and to take what I wanted (it was his house).
Then, about 2-3 days later, he came back home. Told me he’d made a big mistake, and that he wanted to get back together. He told me he wanted us to do couples counseling. He asked me what he could do to make things better. At this point, I had already made plans to move out. I even had just brought boxes home and was literally about to start packing them. He was surprised that I was packing. “You’re moving out already??” Uhhh, yeah. He told me he was hoping I would just visit my family for a bit. I told him I would consider getting back together but that I no longer trusted him. I told him that instead of moving right away, I would just visit my family for a week and come home. I also told him some of my conditions for us being together: That he needs to acknowledge that some of the things his family says/does isn’t right. He needs to have my back. And I admitted to him that I didn’t even like some of them because of how they treat him as well as myself. He listened to all of this without really responding. The responses he did make were dismissive. Whenever he doesn’t like what I say, he acts like I don’t know anything. So then I told him that he also needs to stop dismissing what I say just because he doesn’t like it. He didn’t respond to that.
The next day, he left the house and didn’t come back… without even telling me WTF he was doing. I had to find out through a mutual friend that he had changed his mind again. Long story short, I packed as much as I could in one day, put my cat in her carrier, and moved out. One week later, I came back for the rest of my stuff. I live in a different city now.
I guess I just want to hear more people say that I’m better off without him. I can go into more detail of other things he did that just wasn’t right, if anyone wants to hear it. For now I will keep this post as short as I can. I’m getting tired of rehashing everything.