- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 1985
So first time posting but really needed an objective point of view. My partner and I have been together for 3.5 years. Engaged for a little over a year and the wedding is in 4 weeks. He had a stag just recently in which I found out he lied about the full event. I am OK with the strip clin thing and feel I would rather him tell me than lie about. I have been many times with and without him so no double standards here. Recently, we have been going for counseling. One of the big issues we have been dealing with is the few times he has gone but lied about it. I have caught him a few of those times and confronted him and now he has agreed that he should never have lied and just told me his intentions/activities. Some of the women who are with the men he goes with do not want their guys going to strip clubs, but they also do not know that their guys go. Anyways, he told me he was going with about 15 other guys, I knew where they were staying and that they would be doing a bicycle beer tour amongst the regular pub/club crawl. I was on our iPad when an email confirmation popped up about a hotel reservation for a very upscale hotel ($400/night). As I scrolled down the emails, I saw a Paypal receipt for a payment made to one of those exotic stag/bachelor companies that bring the girls/guys to you! I went on the website and didn’t like everything I read and was totally crushed. He booked this on Thursday and his stag was this past Saturday. He came home Sunday and I confronted him about the expensive hotel and the personal stag party. He said they messed up the room bookings at the original hotel because they had more guys, so they had to get another room. He said one of his buddies stayed in that hotel. In response to the personal stag party, he accused me of snooping and said ‘it was a stag?!’ It’s not the fact that this very sketchy party of nude girl(s) happened-I can choke that down but the fact that he lied. Now, I don’t know what even went on. Who was the poshy hotel for? I know he doesn’t respect me and now my trust in him has disappeared. Am I overreacting?