(Closed) Fiance lied to me (long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The part that bothers me most is that he was actually bragging about this to his friends. That is just totally gross, in my opinion.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

This whole thing is disgusting.  And it sounds pretty outrageous and made up.  Do you even believe this really happened? He may be embellishing for his friends.  Either way, how immature.  I’d be more concerned the he’s telling his friends a story like that (and thinking they would think it’s cool or something) than his “lying” to you about it.  Maybe he told you the truth and made up the rest – sounds like fiction.  If it is true – ewww.  What are you going to do from here?

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@beachgirl21:  Well, I would just chalk it up to him being a stupid guy and exaggerating for his friends.  I doubt you have anything to worry about anyway.  Most guys really wouldn’t like girls acting that slutty even if they say they would.  He’s just trying to look cool for his friends.

But, still, you should tell him how much this upsets you.  You have every right to be upset, I would be livid if I were you.  Ask him how he would feel if two guys felt you up in public, like grabbed your breasts or something, and then you bragged to your friends about it.  How would he feel about that??

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have had conversations I found one my FI’s e-mail about having lunch with a girl he went to college with he lied about even seeing the past few years.  It was a big fight and it still makes me 100% check what he does and investigate more than before where he is, with, and doing.  That was a year ago and to be honest I will never fully trust anyone I find that naive and not very smart. I mean I believe what he is telling me most times but the slightest thing I find off about anything I look very closely into now.  I am not a out of site out of mind person and moved on from the fact her took another girl to lunch but will never forget and totally don’t trust him the way I use to. It’s not a deal breaking but you never 100% recover totally from being betrayed.  I find your mans not as betraying because he did not take them out behind your back and lie about it but it is a lie about another girl nonetheless which is very hurtful to your woman in any aspect. Boys will be boys but marrage is for men…FYI: All men are boys haha

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

This just sounds like typical stupid guy stuff. If he’s young, he might grow out of it. I don’t think it’s really a trust issue. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

The biggest issue here is his lying. I don’t blame you for checking the email, you could clearly tell that he was lying to you. He should have just come clean, maybe he didn’t want to upset you, but he did by lying.

Post # 10
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

At this point, I think you need to let it go. If you trust he didn’t seek out the attention and did make her stop touching him (if this girl actually did), it’s not worth being upset over. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have a feeling he told YOU the truth, and told his guy friends what happened in a place I call Guy Imagination Porn Land.

 

But regardless, I don’t blame you for being wierded out.

Post # 12
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Newbee

@mwitter80:  He is 26…but I guess all guys can have there immature moments. Stupid guys!

@Lyndzo:  He told me he didnt want to tell me because he didnt want to upset, although finding out the way I did and completely being lied to was 10 times worse. Which he now realizes. I told him he should either have kept the whole story to himself or told me the whole truth. How dumb he is for telling me part of the story- I am not a stupid girl, I can put things together when they dont add up!

I called my mom when I was so upset yesterday about the whole thing and she said “men think there penis is there greatest tool” haha- oh mom

Post # 13
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Newbee

sorry just realized I posted under both my names! haha so much for my anonymous name

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