Fiance may not be able to attend rehearsal..help?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Can you change the rehearsal time?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

honestly, what do you really need to rehearse?

we did have one, bc it was convienient.  it was 10 minutes and happened right before the rehearsal dinner.

and it was really more for the wedding party.  we showed the order they would enter and exit, and where they would stand.  i could have just told them too.

if your Fiance can make the brunch part, that’s really all that matters.  1030 to 1 is a LONG time.

also, who is groom? is that someone else.  you mention FI  picking up groom? or am i reading this wrong?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m confused, it doesn’t sound like your fiance is the groom, it sounds like there are two different people, your fiance, and the groom who can’t make it because your fiance is picking him up

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

You wrote “This would also mean that the groom would not be coming as well, because he was going to pick him up on the way to the venue.”

I’m confused, is your fiance not the groom? Is this for someone else’s rehearsal? Or did you mean to write groomsmen? If it’s for your own wedding and the time really can’t be changed then maybe you can do without a rehearsal at all? We didn’t have one and everything went smoothly. If it’s for someone elses, I really wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

And if it’s your rehearsal, when is it? Your tag line says your wedding is in February which means you have some time to coordinate with the venue

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Is your fiance the groom or not? It’s not very clear from this post.

If your fiance is the groom, he needs to be at the rehearsal. It’s more important for him to be involved in this than any out of town bridal party. If that means you book a week in advance for an evening spot so it doens’t complicate hiw work schedule than do it. You can always adjust your rehearsal dinner plans to shift to the evening before. Or arrange to have two rehearsals, one that fits his schedule and as many people there as possible. And then a second one with out of towners who need to know what they’re doing. 

But the groom needs to know the plan and attend at least one rehearsal. As for picking someone else up on the way to the venue, your adults, figure out a different ride for the person who needs one.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

starsandsakuras :  

Edited because I saw you changed the word “groom” to “best man”. I’m sorry you’re stressed, bee.

Could you meet with the officiant outside of the venue time? That way you have more options and aren’t tied down to the venue availability

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

So, your husband is a groomsman? Are you in the wedding party? This seems like a problem for the bride & groom to figure out… just tell them that your fiance can’t make it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I think there is a language barrier here or this is a POLYcouple. Or this isn’t your wedding. What are you meaning by groom? Because I think you have the wrong word. If this is your wedding your fiance is the GROOM.

There is zero requirement to have food the same day as your rehearsal. Just arrange an evening meal. But you’re time of 10:30 only sounds incredibly inconvenient to a lot of people. Your basically forcing people to take a day off for a rehearsal.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Maybe you keep the rehearsal date for you and you can tell your fiance what he has to know after. Then meet with the officiant separately.

our officiant wasn’t at our rehearsal 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I think rehearsals are so unnecessary so I would skip the whole thing if I was you.

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