(Closed) Fiance not interest in planning wedding

posted 10 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 17
Member
37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I love my Fiance and she loves to do absoutely no planning for our wedding. She hired me a wedding planner for that. She said she is going to show up and sign checks (but we will see how much of the latter happens)………………………………….. i am content with what she does and that she stays out my way ( is clumsy )

Post # 18
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I definitely agree with PP about finding some things she would be excited about to help with. The other misconception my Fiance had was when I told her I haven’t been planning my wedding since I was 4 like some girls. She was like “What?” And I had to explain that wedding planning is stressful for me, and even though I’m doing most of it, some help would be nice. Since then she’s been more accepting of tasks I’ve given her. 😛 We are nearly finished up in planning at this point, but I’d still say it was like 75%-25% as far as actual planning.

Also, welcome! 🙂

Post # 19
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653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

In my opinion I think that is normal.  My husband now, didn’t care about the details, still doesn’t.  We still have our reception to plan, and well I know by now that it just doesn’t interest him.  I tried to shove it down his throat and then realized for what?  You have fun planning, the bee is awesome for ideas and for the most part people are nice here.  No one else in the “real world” is gaga for this stuff like us!  It’s addicting.  I am sure there are things your fiance likes that you don’t.  People are wired different, don’t take it personal.  And btw, welcome!

Post # 20
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3 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bellagio: Thanks! Giving tasks is probably what I will end up with but overall seems to work best.

Post # 21
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3 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Carolyn72: That’s true, I am not at all into her video games, but if she asked me to choose between three i could definitely pick one I liked best. And yes, it is how she is wired, not anything personal or her choosing to make me feel bad. That concept helps me understand better. Thank you!

Post # 22
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3 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2012

HI everyone, ias I said before I am technologically unsavvy. I originally made a profile with my name and photo. Then i reaized when I wanted to post i should change for privacy. I changed to cupcake2012. Now I have posted on support to please delete and they said to delete my avatar but I cannot figure that out! Can anyone help? It is embarassing I am this bad at technology issues. 

Post # 23
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My Fiance has some interest in it, but not tons.  She appreciates all I do and thanks me constantly.  I complain, I have a meltdown and she holds my hand through the whole thing.  She wants to help but is helpless when it comes to “girly” stuff.  So, I have her easy things to do.  Like: emailing the DJ all our fave songs.  Calling the caterer every week to fix a few issues until it was done, running payments to caterer and reception hall, pricing stuff online, picking out her own suit, putting together the day of schedule, etc.  I update her on projects she can handle and she does great!

Post # 24
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance isn’t interested in planning the wedding either. Just because shes not interested in planning, doesnt mean shes not interested in getting married. My partner never talked about the plans with me and hated it when i dragged her from place to place (shed wait in the car basically..)but once we had an issue and almost had to cancel the wedding, her true colors showed. “its my wedding too!! and just because im not interested in trying cake doesnt mean i dont wanna marry you!”

everyones different. actually, im enjoying planning the wedding alone. it’s easier lol

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