Post # 1
wondering if anyone else has a fiance who prefers not to wear a wedding ring after we are married…I am not feeling too badly about this, he has a job that would make wearing a ring dangerous, and I suppose if Prince William chose not to wear a band, I could let my guy off…but just wondering if this is common?
He is a wonderful man who is very involved in wedding plans and we have been together for almost eight years, so its not a thing about appearing married being bad for him, just he doesn’t like jewellry.
Post # 3
I would be hurt, to be honest, but then again, my husband does not have the excuse of having a job that would make wearing one dangerous
Post # 4
My first husband didn’t wear one, and it didnt really bother me too much. We bought one but he never wore it after the wedding itself. It just wasn’t his thing.
Post # 5
I love that my DH wears a ring and WANTS to wear his ring. But this is us. As long as you’re OK with him not wearing one, then I don’t see an issue.
Post # 7
My Fiance is the same way. Thinks rings on a guy is, well “gay” and working with machinery, oil, dirt, dust, etc he can’t wear it all the time. But after I told him it’s a symbol of our union, not just a decoration for his finger (most bands are just plain gold anyway…), I think he’s conceded. He told me I’ll have to remind him to put it on (“Are you married tonight?”), which is fine with me. Now going to find and buy the band will be a whole different story… I can see excuses coming up now.
Post # 8
It would bother me. What kind of job does he have? My best friend’s husband is a pipefitter so his hands are around metal in tight spaces and he uses dangerous equipment, but he still wears his band. He got a ceramic band so it would break if his hand was ever crushed, saving his finger.
It’s an option (and a very inexpensive one too) if he’s only worried about safety.
Post # 9
My fiance has a job as well that makes it dangerous to wear one. He’s still getting one though, because he is only at work 40-60 hours a week. He wants a ring though so I guess it’s different, If he didn’t I’m not sure what I would do, but I know I wouldn’t be pleased.
Post # 10
It would bother me. It’s a sign of our commitment….that would like me telling him I just don’t like jewelery so I wasn’t going to wear my rings after we got married. That wouldn’t fly long in our relationship.
I love that my Fiance wants to wear his once we get married. It’s the way it should be In our opinion.
Post # 11
My FH probably won’t wear a ring either. We’re still getting him one for the ceremony, but he probably won’t wear it on a daily basis – just for special occaisions or something.
It’s not that he’s not proud to be married, it’s just that jewelry he doesn’t like wearing jewelry(the only thing he wears at the moment is his watch). I’m okay with him not wearing one too. We’ve been together for 9 years and I know he’s proudly telling everyone about his bride to be :). That said, I’m more than happy to wear the bling for both of us!
Post # 12
I know my Father-In-Law didn’t wear a wedding ring for a long time because it was dangerous at the job he worked at. Now he wears one though. Honestly, I’d be hurt but maybe you can compromise where he gets one and wears it just at home (or out to non-work places).
Post # 13
If its dangerous for him to wear it at work then, it sounds like he doesnt really have a choice, would he wear it out socially though when not working? My Fiance cant wear his ring to work but will wear it when he is not working
Post # 14
@Crisark: This was before we got engaged, but when my Fiance first mentioned his dislike for rings, I told him that I never wear jewelry (besides a necklace) and that if we get married since I’ll have TWO rings to wear, I think you could handle wearing one piece of metal in public. He started to lean my way after that…
Post # 15
I’m also curious about his line of work. Perhaps something inexpensive and easy to cut-off (if necessary) would be best for work.
Post # 16
My dad doesnt wear a ring and my parents have been married since they were 17, theyre now in their 50’s! Its not that he isnt proud to be married to my mom, he loves her more than anything and their relationship is amazing, but he has just never worn jewelry and so he just has never worn a ring. My dad is always building stuff and working on cars etc so it would probably just be a pain in the a$$ for him anyways. On the other hand my FH is wearing his ring already lol. So I think it just depends 🙂