(Closed) fiance not wanting to wear wedding ring

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

DH was quite chary about wearing one, but hasn’t taken it off yet. I think that it’s a matter of time before he will though–the nasty days of a DC August haven’t hit quite yet and if I know him he will be complaining about his sweaty ring when they do. It won’t bother me terribly if he does take it off–I would say a majority of the married guys I know of all ages (and some women too) don’t wear one. I do want him to wear it to formal stuff, though. It just looks shiny and hawt.

Post # 18
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2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

let him do what he wants.

I know lots of guys who don’t wear wedding rings for various reasons. it’s no big deal.

put yourself into his shoes: what if he told you that you must wear a ring, even if you did not want to. wouldn’t you be annoyed?

Post # 19
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Fiance isn’t into jewelery either, and also has a dangerous jobfor wearing a ring (Welding).  However after realizing how much it means to me, and his Grandma giving him his late grandpa’s ring, I think he’s coming around.  I’m fine with him not wearing it to work, but he say’s he’ll put it on when we go out which all I ask 🙂

Post # 20
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My guy won’t be wearing one & I honestly don’t give a crap. Not once in our relationship of 5 years has anyone mistook him for being single & he’s the most wonderful man I know. He just doesn’t like jewelry & I would never want to force him. If I chose not to wear mine, I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t care either. It’s really not that big a deal to us. We don’t see it as a test of commitment in any way, and definitely not a repellent to the opposite sex.

 

Post # 21
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It didn’t bother me when I assumed my Fiance wouldn’t be wearing a ring because he never, ever wears jewlery or accessories. Eventually he told me he actually does want to wear a ring, which was a pleasant surprise. I think if he decided to go back on that statement now it would probably bother me more than if he was never planning on wearing one at all. In any case I would want him to wear one for the wedding even if he never wore it again. 

Post # 22
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance will not be wearing a ring when we get married bc he works with machines and tools that could easily get caught on a ring. But, will wear a ring on special occasions (our wedding). I don’t really mind him not wearing a ring daily as it is “not him” and has no impact on our relationship. I think it would be worse to make him wear a ring he hated.

Post # 23
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2933 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’d bother me.  I’d probably strongly consider not wearing either of my rings if he doesn’t want to wear his.  After all, it’s just a symbol, right?  😉

Post # 24
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816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Mine will not. He is a carpenter and has told me too many horror stories of men getting their fingers sliced off because of their rings catching on something. His union actually does not allow them to wear jewelry of any kind because of this reason.

 

I’m not too upset about it. I have no worries of him being unfaithful and plus we wont have to shell out extra cash for a ring he will not wear.

Post # 25
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t wear my ring to work.  I work in the medical field and most people choose not to wear their rings.  So I can understand if your Fiance doesn’t wear his to work.  I would probably want him to want to wear one though if you were out in public or just at home. 

Post # 26
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3696 posts
Sugar bee

It would bother me a lot. Fiance is not a jewelry person and was against it at first, but he’s offered to give wearing it a try. He seems to have warmed up to the idea and has looked at rings online a couple of times on his own. He doesn’t have a job where it would be hazardous and understands that it’s very important to me.

Post # 27
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would bother me, too. My Fiance is an electrician, and won’t be able to wear his ring while at work. We both know this, but he is excited to wear it any other time.

Post # 28
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210 posts
Helper bee

I think it would be fine as long as he wore it when he was off work- like, immediately.  And at lunch.  My boyfriend works with some really awful chemicals, and though he wears gloves and is careful, they sometimes still seep into the glove and wreck his hands.  His coworkers have all said how much harm can be caused if chemicals get under their rings and I’d rather him be comfortable and wear it after work- so that’s my solution for whenever we get married, and I’m not worried about any of the other guys he works with making a move 🙂

Post # 29
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717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Before the wedding I would’ve been sad.  After the wedding, I don’t care.  DH has mentioned he is interested in not wearing his ring at work.  He’s in the medical field.  All the ladies he works with don’t wear theirs and he says it gets annoying putting gloves on.  I say it’s all about comfort.  So far he still wears it.  I WANT to wear mine but if it was uncomfortable at work I wouldn’t.

Post # 30
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99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance said he wants to wear his ring, even at work. He works for our city fire department and I told him I didn’t think it was a good idea to wear it. But he insists that he wants to wear it, which I am glad he does, but I just hope nothing happens like the stories I have heard of. Is he just not wanting to wear it at work? Or never wear it at all? IMO I would be fine with him not wearing it to work, but if he didn’t wear it everywhere else I would be upset.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This would forsure bother me.

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