Post # 1
So a few weeks ago I posted that my fiance cheated on me with 12 women with a second cell phone he had, that I found (back in feb of this year) One of the women he cheated on me with was his kids mom, (they have 7 kids together) since then he has been trying to regain trust and work on our relationship. 2 days ago he says to me “my daughter needs me to take her shopping to get a few things” I said that’s fine, (I have only been around this little girl twice) He picks me up from work with his daughter in the car. He hands me a note that the little girl wrote, that says “can I come and live with you” He ask me “so what do you think? I say NO!!!! he was just sleeping with her mother, I already have two of their kids in my home that I am raising, along with my two. SO that would be now 5 kids!!! So what happens when the other 4 kids want to come and live with us?. I would be responsible for her 7 kids?. He says that I am not being supportive, and I should be happy he wants to take in his daughter. He say’s “what if she puts me on child support? It’s like he is the most selfish person I have ever met. He lied to me about having these kids, I did not find out about them until a year into our relationship.
I am just so tired of always having to sacrifice my happiness for him!!!! It’s not even about his daughter, but more so the messed up things he has done to me, now he wants me to raise his daughter on top of everything else, when she has a mother that lives 30 minutes from my home. I was never asked but more so “TOLD” that this is what it will be!!! I told him I can’t do it!!! I am done
This topic was modified 3 years, 4 months ago by johnson1.
Post # 2
This is a trainwreck, and not your problem. Run fast and run far.
Post # 3
Why are you with a guy who has SEVEN kids with someone else…and cheated on you with 12 (that you know about) other women? This can’t be real life because I refuse to believe that someone is that dumb to stay with a guy like this?
Post # 4
Yeah, you should have been done a long time ago. I would assume the daughter was obviously prompted to write that note. He sounds like a skeez, get out before you become responsible for his whole brood.
Post # 5
Um, don’t marry him?
And why on earth isn’t he paying child support for SEVEN kids?
Post # 6
It’s pretty manipulative to ambush you with the whole note from his daughter thing. He probably was banking on you feeling bad and not wanting to say no in front of the daughter.
Seriously he cheated on you with 12 women. Seven more and he could fancy himself Tiger Woods or something. I think you’re worth better than this and I hope you really are leaving this relationship.
Post # 7
johnson1: I don’t want to be flippant, but…duh? Of course you’re done. Any rational person would be.
Post # 8
Honey, leave!!! He clearly does not respect you, and you deserve to be treated better! I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to get out, take good care of yourself, and always remember that you are worth so much more than this!!!
Post # 9
Be done with this and toss him out like last week’s leftovers. Done and run!!
Post # 9
johnson1: What did you expect? This guy has proved time and time again that he’s scum and you’re still calling him “fiance.” Good luck with that.
Post # 11
I would NEVER marry someone who cheated on me with one woman let alone 12 (holy cheeseballs!) To be honest you may love this guy and all but if you marry him you’re ALWAYS going to be on the losing end and you’re worth far more than being a caretaker for his brood! I hope you make the right decision for YOU! Xx
Post # 12
Why would you want to be with a man who ISN’T paying child support for his children?
I…is this even real?
Post # 13
I hope you actually are done… but I don’t think you are, or you’d be busy looking for a place to live and moving out and not venting on Weddingbee. If cheating with 12 women and treating you like crap wasn’t a dealbreaker, this won’t be either.
Post # 14
Confused as to why you’re still with him after all of this? If anything, leave him for the sake of your own two children. They do not deserve to be raised in this trainwreck scenario.
Side note: Why would he NOT be paying child support to the mother of his seven children?
Post # 15
johnson1: What do you expect? You aren’t done.. that is a joke… if him cheating on you with 12 women (that you know of) isn’t enough then why would this? Have fun being a doormat the rest of your life with a scumbag man who clearly knows he can get away with whatever he wants. I dont feel bad for you one bit – but I do feel bad for all of the children.