(Closed) Fiance NOW wants his daughter to live with us!!!! I am DONE

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 106
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1910 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

He’s not your husband, and it wouldn’t be a good idea to change that IMO.

Post # 107
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374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Is this a joke?? Seriously? You have got to be kidding, right. So, you date a guy for a year THEN find out he has 7 children with one woman. You stay with him. You get engaged. He cheats on you not 12 times but with 12 different women???? And you stay with him.  On of the said 12 women is the mother to his 7 children. you have 2 of the 7 and you say that a 3rd child wants to live with her FATHER. that is what you are upset about? are you for real. so once you said okay to everything else that happened, you want to deny a child from living with her father. seriously. are you kidding me?? oh and dont even get me started on the statement of him not paying child support. WTH!!!! You are joking, right?

Post # 108
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828 posts
Busy bee

Are you staying or leaving? I’m getting confused.

Post # 109
Member
1988 posts
Buzzing bee

Forget about him. YOU. What is wrong with you? Do you not believe you deserve more and better things and people in your life? 

Post # 110
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7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

johnson1:  Leave him. Not because of the children, but because of the cheating.

I said last time your post made me sad. It still does. You say you were “TOLD” that’s how it will be. Please, why don’t you leave? How can being single be worse than being with this guy?

Post # 111
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62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Wow! That’s alot to grasp! First and foremost, as wrong as he is, it’s even more wrong to deny him the right to raise his child in his own home. You are choosing to marry him, knowing he has 7 children. Because of that you have to be willing to help raise each of those children if need be. Im sure the convo wouldn’t go so well if he said your 2 children could not live with you. 

On the other hand, he certainly doesn’t sound like husband material! If I were you, I’d take my 2 children, leave him with his 7, and the mother he clearly is still involved with, and run for the hills honey!! 💃🏾

Post # 112
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1490 posts
Bumble bee

I keep typing a response and deleting and rewriting one again. 

I don’t think anything anyone says here is going to change your mind. Although i wish it would. 

If you take anything from these responses I wish It’s this: Could you commit to going to just one therapy session? Just commit to one. It’s a step in the right direction. And it can’t make your situation worse. 

 

 

Post # 113
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259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

johnson1:  Honestly you lost me at 12 women. I mean 12???? That is a huge red flag that it wasn’t that you weren’t enough, nobody is for him! Clearly he is a fan of polygomy because that is some crazy shit right there. I think eeryone here agrees that is not a good match, and probably not a good person to have setting an example for ANY children. 

Post # 114
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3831 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

skunktastic:  mink714:  I actually know someone in a similar situation and she stayed with him.  Surprise, surprise, he kept cheating on her and eventually left her when he knocked up someone else (who he also cheated on!).  Total winner.

Post # 115
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742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I can’t help but vote troll on this one. Couldn’t be real life.

Post # 116
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Assuming you’re not trolling; you should read your post and think about what advice you’d give to someone else in this toxic situation.

Why are you still with this guy? What he needs is to be tested for STD’s; a nanny; and to make child support payments.

What you need is to get the heck outta that situation; realize your self-worth and find someone who isn’t a lying/cheating bastard.

Good luck.

Post # 117
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2146 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

wait what… I dont have time to read 8 pages of replies so sorry if im repeting stuff but wow I feel for the poor kids… so you told a child that shes not welcome with her father and sibling?

you litrally told a innocent child ‘NO’ for wanting to be with her family?

and made it about you? thats cold

 

your sorry to sound mean here but an idiot if you chose this life, its YOUR choice but the children are innocent in all this… 9 kids that didnt choose this messed up life you’s lot have created for them and its not about any of you – dont like it then you can leave but that child will alway be his child and isnt going anywhere and its not your right to say she cant be with her family, you weren’t really asked because your opinion as a girlfriend doesnt matter in a family matter

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