Post # 1
Hi Brides to Be!
Just curious if any brides on here have had anxiety about their fiance liking their dress? I know that my fiance knows nothing about fashion, but I have found myself wondering if he will like the style of gown I chose, which is a ball gown. Has anyone else found themselves doing this? I think it’s a lot easier said than done to just think “he’ll love it because I love it” etc.
<br />Thanks and congrats to any brides who just found their dress recently!
Post # 2
I didn’t. But, I asked my man, at the time, if he wanted me to be a sexier bride (fitted gown) or a princess (ball gown) because I was unsure which direction to go….and he said princess. I even wore a 5 hoop slip underneath my ball gown to make it as big as possible. It was a lot of fun being a princess!
Post # 3
My FI asks to see the dress all the time. Yeah, thats a big no! So I asked him what he thinks it will look like. Thankfully he said big, and I have a ballgown. He also commented on a dress we saw in a shop once, it was very close to mine. So either my FI is very interested, or the little bugger snooped in my phone!
Has your man asked about it all? I’d play it out and see what he says.
Post # 4
I absolutely wanted a dress he’d love! I kept bugging him for opinions, and he eventually told me he likes “soft fabrics,” so not lace or sparkles.
Unfortunately, I really had my heart set on lace..so I found a nice soft lace/tulle dress. (I think his concern was not scratchy when we’re dancing etc. which won’t be a problem with my dress).
If it’s really bugging you, I say ask him!
Post # 5
Pebba1027: I’m still looking for my dress but I had my fiance show me pictures of what he doesn’t like in terms of shape and fabric. Nothing too specific and I didn’t comment about any of the dresses he showed me (but luckily they weren’t anywhere near what I was thinking). At first he didn’t want to but it’s important to me that while I pick my dress and it has to be what he wants, the wedding is about him too and I want my dress to somewhat match his vision of me on our wedding day.
Post # 6
Pebba1027: I do sometimes we did have a convo about what he imagined me wearing and he said well your not a princess girl so I dont expect puffy. I did buy a mermaid so he was right there. But the other day he mentioned how a bride should always wear a long veil I was a little crushed because I had my heart set on a birdcage. I know he wouldnt care once he saw me but now Im rethinking it.
Post # 7
I agree with all of what you’re saying! I too originally showed him pics of dresses, but even the most simple styles that i loved, he vetoed, so I felt it best to stop showing him because I truly think he doesn’t know what he’s talking about in terms of bridal fashion you know? The ball gown I chose is not super flaired out and I’m even having a layer of tulle removed so that it doesn’t flair out as much.
I think he’ll like it but I guess I just have to be confident in my choice that i love it!
Thanks for all your advice!
Post # 8
my fiance liked the vintage styles and when i tried them on i didnt like them on me. i liked the mermaid and aline. i though a ball gown looked bad on me due to im 5’0 and 115 lbs. he also liked white while i wanted color. but im having some color in my dress and its a mermaid.i think he will love me in it. like ur fiance will love u in urs due to its u wearing it.
Post # 9
Pebba1027: Do you wonder if he will like your outfit everyday? Of course not! That would be exhausting! He is going to think you look beautiful on your day even if you wore a paper bag! There are enough stresses with weddings, please do not worry about what he will think of your dress!
As long as YOU feel beautiful and YOU love your dress, he will too!!
Post # 10
I told him the style of my dress, and he made comments on photography websites about the styles he liked, and I told him that mine was very similar so that shouldn’t be a problem. He did like my dress, or else didn’t tell me if he didn’t like it!
I know an ex of my told his now-wife that he didn’t like the first dress she picked out, and made her go get a new one. I was like, um… that’s not cool. Yes, your FI should love you dress, but he should love the fact that you love it and be OK with it.
Post # 11
my mom and i were atthe mall and we popped in to a little dress shop Just for fun. I found a few I liked so I asked if I could try on they said sure well my mom pulled one, we both Really liked on me (I didn’t get it because of finacial reasons). Well I wanted to know what FI would think so I found it in Pinterest and did one of thoes sly what do you think of this dress. He hated it especially the back which is what i loved. I guess this Could be a cautionary tale, I’m lucky because i can keep looking but if you already have your dress it can give you major dress regret
Post # 12
I wasn’t concerned. We have very similar tastes and he likes everything I wear. He cried when he saw me, which is exactly what I was going for!
Post # 13
I worry about this and I’m not even technically engaged! Lol! My SO loves feminine and soft but dislikes lace. I know he loves ballgowns, sweetheart necklines, and bows (like a bow on the sash, not 80s style everywhere). I love ballgowns so that’s not a problem but I do like lace and I love illusion over a sweetheart. I think our biggest difference in opinion is going to be my hair honestly. He really likes it down but I don’t think it will feel special for me if I don’t have a serious up-do. He hates up-dos. This is so silly…but I’m already worried!
Post # 14
Pebba1027: YES! Sometimes he loves what I wear and sometimes he makes funny comments. I got a little bit of input from him on what he likes/doesn’t like and tried to go along thsoe lines and what I also loved. Wedding is in 18 days, I will update you on how he felt about it haha
Post # 15
I was pretty anxious about my choice – I wore an aline dress but I thought DH would prefer to see me in something more fitted (basically something that showed off my arse!). Plus when I showed him pics of wedding dresses and showed him one similar to my own, his reaction was “meh”. (Although that was his reaction to most dresses!). On the day he told me I looked beautiful and he loved the dress – and since we did a first look, I have pictures of his reaction to prove it!
Once your FI sees you all dressed up, I’m sure he’ll think you look amazing.