(Closed) Fiance opinion of dress choice anxiety

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

So much right now Ive always done poofy ball gowns from prom and such and Id make him watch TLC with everynown then before were engaged and I DID NOT LIKE MERMAID DRESSES and he either agreed or just was being a guy and agreeing bc I said it and he keeps talking baout renting a car for the day a) bc he wants something cooler than his b) bc he keeps making comments similar to how poofy my dress will prob be… but, in reaity its a fitted dress not to the extent of mermaid but not poofy at all…. so hes either going to be so wowd and shocked or he wont like it at all … ;/…. oh well i guess its done lol and i like it lol

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m not too concerned. I did ask him what he likes and he said he wasn’t a big fan of big poofy sleeves or super high necklines, and I informed him that since this was neither the 80s or Victorian times, I don’t think he had much to worry about! haha

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wasn’t terribly anxious because I had a very specific vision in mind and was so happy to have found it (without having it custom made). I felt so beautiful and amazing in it that I knew he would love it. I once asked him if he had any ideas on what it would look like and he said backless, which it was!

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

As a bride who has lost a lot of weight, my Fiance often makes comments about how I don’t wear my clothes “fitted enough” for my new shape. (He has known me through all sizes) I ended up getting a fitted a-line since I didn’t like how the excess skin looked on my lower half. so I worry about it bc I basically still bought the opposite. But I’m not comfortable enough in my own skin to have really gone fitted. 

 

Oh well. and poofy sleeves was the only thing he vetoed too. 

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper

Fiance is so sweet, he would love whatever I wear. But really, any Fiance would be so blown away by the marriage thing that the dress is secondary. And most men aren’t really dress experts anyway. 

A similar thread about DH not liking his wife’s wedding dress came up recently, and though I know Fiance would never say anything like that, I did tell him it was a bad idea to say that when our time comes ;).

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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Pebba1027:  it’s actually a huge source of anxiety for me. he’s very opinionated when it comes to my fashion and he’s usually right if something doesn’t look good. He even has an opinion on my purses (mostly because he’s the one financing my Coach addiction lol!) but yes I think about it a lot. He’s made the statement that he hates lace, doesn’t care for mermaid/trumpet/fit and flare and would prefer a sweetheart neckline because he’s a boob guy. haha! Didn’t pay for ’em just to hide them! 😉

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

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Pebba1027:  

I am probably pretty lucky and maybe its because I am a dress consultant my-self that my Fiance has heard every dress horror story under the sun. He simply said he doesn’t want any hint of what I will be wearing, and says he loves the way I look everyday so he knows my wedding dress will be beautiful and to get whatever makes me happy. 

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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Pebba1027:  I have yet to hear of a groom that said his bride looked ugly in the dress she chose, even if he expressed his dislike for that style of dress at some point.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

My husband would have been fine with anything but did make it clear in the past he didnt care for mermaids dress. 

i was going to wear a birdcage veil but when he saw it off he asked “what turkey did you get that from”, ha! He would have been supportive but I let it go after that!

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I looked at tons of dresses before I actually chose mine and my Fiance was right next to me through all of it. Periodically I would ask him what he thought of dress x or dress y and he would let me know. My biggest challenge has been not showing him the dress. We share everything and it’s weird not sharing this with him, but he doesn’t want to see it.

Post # 26
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Helper bee

I wasn’t concerned. There are many times Fiance and I are out shopping I pick up a shirt or something and he says it’s not his favorite. Of course, I buy it anyways then once it is on me and I incorporate it into a part of the outfit he will change his mind and say, “Oh wow that does look nice”. I figured he never is able to visualize a complete outfit now and his judgement isn’t sound with fashion as it is so I’m going with what I like.

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My Fiance doesn’t give a crap what I wear every day, but for whatever reason, he has quite the opinion on my wedding dress. He said he wouldn’t want me to get anything enormous like a ball gown, but BALL GOWNS ARE SO COOL! When again in my life will I ever have a reason to wear a ball gown?? He just doesn’t get it. He also likes strapless dresses, which I’m planning on getting anyways. So he’ll kind of get his way. 🙂

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Pebba1027:  oh God, yes lol 

I kept showing him pictures lf dresses similar to mine to get an idea and he started getting frustrated and saying stop asking me! You are going to look beautiful in whtever you wear!! Lol

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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megz06:  Right?!

What groom has ever thought his bride didn’t look good in her dress? I remember asking my DH when I began dress shopping his thoughts and he just said nothing too poufy and that he likes me in strapless. Easy enough, but if I had picked something with sleeves I doubt he would’ve thought anything of it.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I worried about that for a while! In order to get his opinion on the dress I bought, I pulled up 3 pictures of dresses, and one of them was mine. I wasn’t telling him which one though! He said that out of the 3, he liked 2, and the other one was okay. He wouldn’t tell me which 2 he liked, because he didn’t want me to feel bad. I will say, wedding dresses look completely different on models vs a real bride. A bride glows in her gown, and you just can’t capture that with a model. He will love what you pick, I promise!

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