- 1 year ago
- Wedding: January 2021
bre3 : I’m sorry to say, but I agree with @oceangirl40 that you should work from the premise that it is over.
TBH I’m not sure if there is any coming back from this at this point. Initially, I thought that it could be worked through if it really was a matter of him having a freakout and making a rash decision but wanting and being willing to work on the communication problems. However, his resistance at this point is going to taint anything going forward. So not only will you always worry that he’s just going to up and leave again out of the blue, but you’ll also wonder how committed he is to you on a day to day basis. To me, at this point, it sounds like even if part of him wants to make it work, another bigger part of him is intentionally sabotaging that possibility.
I honestly think the better thing for you to do is figure out how to move on. I’m sorry. I can’t imagine how hard this is. But it’s gonna be even harder trying to hold on when he’s not holding on with you.