(Closed) Fiance parents wants us to do a prenup- but he will loose everything if we dont.

posted 8 years ago in Legal
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

If the prenup is reasonable than just sign it if not than change it to reasonably accomidate both sides and sign it.  This isn’t a fight you want to deal with.  If you don’t sign it then they’ll probably even be more convinced that you’re after his money.  I completely understand not wanting to sign it but in this case it’s for the better. 

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d sign the pre-nup (after having your own lawyer look at it, of course – and you and your Fiance can talk about inserting protection clauses for you!)

I’d also do it confidently and proudly – don’t let his parents see that they’ve ruffled you! It may help them change their minds about you. And if not? Then you still took the higher ground, and look a lot classier than they do.

Post # 49
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Newbee

SIgn the prenup. It’s not about you. It’s not about your relationship. It’s about you and him respecting the fortune his parents have worked for. 

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper

I would sign it also, provided a lawyer looks at it to determine its fair for both parties, and not something his parents wrote designed to screw you over. Seems like a win-win to me! You guys will get to keep his money and prove to his parents you’re not in it for the money. 

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Sign the prenup.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

1. Get a lawyer and have him review the prenup.

2. If it’s fair, sign it.

3. Rub your ILs faces in your happy marriage every day for the next 60 years. 🙂 

Post # 53
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Huh, I guess I’m in the minority here.  I say give it all up and live on love. 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@geekspice:  +1!

Post # 56
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756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Get a lawyer to check it and make sure it protects you, and then sign it immediately. His parents sound awful but there is no reason to put both of your financial futures at risk. 

Post # 58
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2997 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’d sign it personally!

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

As many other Bees have said, I would just sign the pre-nup. You know more than anyone that you’re not going to use it BUT the benefit will be that your inlaws will start to approach taking your relationship seriously, and hopefully they can start mending the fences they broke. Of course I would be very offended if I were you that they haven’t even met you and are making these gold-digger assumptions about you, but hopefully you can just put it behind you.

 

 

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

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@sara_tiara:  +1

Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@SamanthaLovesJames:  

i agree,only sign the prenup that has to do with the parents bussiness and assets.i dont understand why this is so diffucult for you or your Fi to understand.its their money and business,not yours or FI’s(well Fiance if they put his name on it)

i know if i worked my ass off and wanted my children to be/have a part of my wealth and my business you can bet your butt i will have a pre nup for their future FI’s to sign,but only what is mine or part mine.and their FI’s shouldnt have a problem signing if they werent in it for the money,besides they didnt have the money to begin with,so i dont understand why your Fiance is giving his parents a hard time,just sign what belongs to them and them and your Fiance.you will still get what you and Fiance make and build together as a married couple if something does ever happen.

i would sign,reguardless you get to enjoy the wealth,if you dont sign you both loose out witch is not very smart.in time you will gain his parents trust(if you and Fiance stop making this so hard for them now)and down the road they may love you and want you to be apart of their wealth to,but you and your Fiance arent doing a good job showing his parents respect reguarding their(his parents)assets/business

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