Fiance pays more attention to phone than me

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey bee

1. How old are you 2?

2. What exactly did they say about you?

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The fact he didn’t say anything is really concerning. No one gets away with saying mean things about my husband if I am around, and vice versa. Furthermore, it is not really “roasting” when you don’t even know the person! That’s just being a dick. 

There isn’t a way to dance around the topic with your fiance. You just need to lay it out. Say something along the lines of, “I don’t understand your constant need for social media. Can you please explain what about it is so satisfying that you’d rather interact with strangers and acquaintances than me?” and “It hurt my feelings that you let strangers get away with that. How would you feel if that happened to you and I just idly sat by?”

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2017

My then boyfriend, then fiancé, now husband never defended me ever! Irrespective of anything and everything, he never ever stood up for me. I made a mistake of marrying him, and am now currently in the process of divorce. Trust me, if your man standing up for you is as important to you as it is for me, leave before it’s too late. I need to know that my husband will protect me come what may and that he always has my back. He could never give ne that and that really harms the relationship because that breaks your trust and leaves you feeling hurt every now and then. It’s just not worth it. Be with someone who would fight for you, would roar at anyone who would even point a finger at you. That’s what I wanted in my man and never got. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

goodo1215 :  What did they say to “roast” you two?  I think the context is important here – a joke about the “ol ball and chain” would still annoy me, but a whole lot less than a joke about my physical appearance or something.

How did you find out about it?  Did your Fi come and tell you about it, was he upset about it?  Or did you see it some other way.  If your Fiance told you about it and didn’t know what to say back to them, I would be a lot more forgiving than if he didn’t mention it to you at all.

I think it’s creepy that people you’ve never met are pulling personal pictures off FB.  I’d have your Fiance change his FB settings for this group, so they can’t see anything on his page. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

i think its about time ti start drawing boundry lines before you marry this guy. you both need to be on the same page before turing a new one. i also wouldnt want social media to bother me.

my husband has an ig and i have fb so we dont see eachoher things. in the past i have a had a few things to say about his snap chat frriends, but it was a easy fix w deleting certain people. 

 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

goodo1215 :  Uhhhhh if some random strangers made deeply insulting jokes about my appearance and my boyfriend didnt defend me, I would be furious. Sounds like your man needs to grow some balls. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

That’s very nasty and these people are typical ‘keyboard warriors’. This is what’s wrong with social media. People feel entitled to make insulting comments they would never make in person.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Isn’t him deleting those people and leaving the group a way of defending you…? 

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