- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
My fiance and I have been together for over four and a half years. We don’t really fight, we have a good relationship and are truly best friends.
With that being said… over the past few months he has been addicted to his email. In fact, I confronted him about it several times.. only for him to check it even more compulsively after a week or so. I began thinking maybe he was cheating on me, and decided to take a quick peek when he asked me to pull up his email on my computer one night (his doesn’t always get internet at my apartment). Alas, no, he is just really addicted to his school/work emails.
Well, today–actually, for the past three days, I’ve been really sick. I have cyst problems with my ovaries and for about three or four periods a year, the cramps are more painful than my kidney stones. I was laying in bed with him after he got home from work and starting to feel better, and we both started out working on our laptops and watching tv. I put mine down and he kept his up, but not really doing anything–so I asked him if he’d put it up so we could spend time together.
He ignored me, so I asked again and started to fold down the lid just a little. He said ok, then changes his screen back to the email and yells at me to stop. Why? Because he got an email asking him to be in a coworker’s survey (he’s doing research) that did NOT need to be answered right away.
So, after dealing with this month after month and tired of it, I stormed out into the other bedroom, plopping down on the bed to watch some TV and locking the door–figuring he’d get the message after a little while. Sure enough, he comes looking. After a few minutes of him apologizing, I opened the door, came out, and explained the issue and why I really just wish he would stop obsessing over email.
He reacted terribly. He got so mad he slammed his head into the door frame, and started yelling.
I convinced him to leave (and leave his key so he can’t get in) but I am scared to death of him right now! This is not his nature at all, he is so quiet and kind and loving–this is the first time he’s ever done anything like this AT ALL.
I’m just at a loss for what to do.