- 10 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
My fiancé is having a horrible time picking his wedding party and I’ve run out of options, please help me! I have a large party of 6 that breaks down like this: Maid/Matron of Honor – My mother, Bridesmaid or Best Man 1: Future sister-in-law, Bridesmaid or Best Man 2 & 3: Close college friends, Bridesmaid or Best Man 4: Close post college friend, Bridesmaid or Best Man 5: Post college friend who has gown very distant recently due to a new boyfriend.
Fiancé has 5 people in mind — 1 high school friend, 3 college friends, and my best friend who is like a brother. This situation is made more interesting because one of his college friends is the reason Bridesmaid or Best Man 5 is now MIA (a whole other issue in itself!).
Fiancé’s issues: #1 He doesn’t have a best or even close friend, should he skip the best man thing and just have groomsmen? He thinks the absence of a best man would be weird since I have a Maid/Matron of Honor. He’s thinking about asking the high school friend because he’s known him the longest. #2 He doesn’t want to have un-even numbers. He thinks that pictures and aisle procession will look weird with un-even numbers.
I’m ok with the un-even numbers and the absence of a best man. I’ve gone as far as asking our photographer to show him photos of un-even wedding parties but he’s not budging. He is upset that I have too many people, though I did run my choices by him before asking. I’ve suggested his cousin but he thinks 16 is too young and the cousin has a younger brother who he thinks will feel left out. I can tell he wants me to “fire” Bridesmaid or Best Man 5 but she has her dress already and I can’t do that to her. What do I do??