(Closed) Fiancé saw a pic of me in my dress. What should I do? (Pic heavy)

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do in this situation?

    Wear the dress already purchased (Maggie Sottero Lacey) - he probably already forgot how it looks!

    Switch to Dress #2 w/o stripes

    Switch to Dress #3 in ivory

    Switch to Dress #4

    Keep looking!

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  • Post # 16
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    Helper bee

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    Bridey77:  Everything they said . Theres hardly a straight man on  the planet would  remember what it really looked like , let alone without the  veil etc  

    Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper

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    thegoods:  As much as I love the fourth dress, stop buying dresses.  My husband saw the dress I wore before we got married.  Even though I had worn it for when I graduation, my husband still thought I was beautiful because it was the day we were married.

    Post # 19
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Even if he remembers the photo in a general way, I can assure you that  it will look completely different to him  in person.  The fabric, the texture and the movement of the dress, with you in it, all dressed up, will make it a completely new and original experience. Don’t worry. 

    IMO dress #1 is the most flattering on you of the four by far. 

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee

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    thegoods:  He’s a man, trust me, he won’ t remember! I’ ve been married for 12 years now and mine probably wouldn’ t be able to tell you what I wore yesterday!. He will be so excited…nervous…whatever….on the day of the wedding, that remembering what you looked like will be the least of his problems. He’ s going to be more worried about just breathing, remembering what to say, NOT crying, and not passing out. It will all work out! Keep the dress!

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Keep the dress! It is gorgeous! Don’t worry if he saw or not! Honestly we don’t even believe such things because my fiance totally saw me in mines. (I’m glad he did because I know he loved it!) We both know on our wedding day, I will look all made up & he will absolutely fall in love with me all over again 🙂

    Post # 24
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    Honey bee

    What on earth will you do if you change dresses again and then he accidently sees the next one?

    This nonsense has to stop somewhere.

    Post # 25
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    Worker bee

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    MsDub:  This. I can’t really get the obsession with “seeing the dress for the first time” — perhaps because I’m not from the States — thing is, how are you sure he will like it just because you and your friends/mom etc do too? Men and women view clothes differently and style tastes vary from guy to guy. The “first look” expression of being “overcome with emotion” is probably him being overwhelmed by seeing you for the first time all made up in a wedding dress and everyone staring at him expecting him to burst into tears or something. 

    Just imagine if you didn’t know what your groom would be wearing and he could turn up in a pistachio green tux with a lemon yellow bow tie for all you knew. Would it be fun? i imagine your first look will be much like what everyone would construe as being overcome with emotion — stunned and the bursting into tears. For all the wrong reasons.

    I went dress shopping with my fiancé and my mom and we discussed and agreed unanimously on the dress to choose. Knowing my fiancé loved my dress is a hundred times better than hiding it from him just to see his face and not knowing if he really likes it or not — a source of woe for brides who later find out the dress was “just okay” and “not what he was expecting”. 

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

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    bluefirebee:  I agree, I don’t really get it either. I bought my dress online, and showed my husband the pic before I bought it to make sure he liked it. He was there when I had it fitted. We got ready in the same room on the actual wedding day. He was the one who buttoned up the 20+ buttons on the back. Even though he knew what my dress looked like and had seen me in it before, the moment we saw each other completely dressed up was still a special moment because it’s when it really hit us that we were getting married that day.

    OP, don’t worry about your fiancé seeing the dress. It will still be special when he sees you on the day because it will be your wedding day!

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

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    bluefirebee:  yes, super agree. no one does first look in my country either! in fact, the norm here is to do pre-wedding photos in the wedding attire so that it doesn’t take time away from guests on the actual wedding day. 

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Demetries

    My Fiance saw a pic of me in mine by accident and I think it will be fine you have to remember most ment aren’t as detail oriented and will only care How you look over all on that day not specific details of the dress. so pick whichever one you love best and feel the best in. 

    Post # 29
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

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    bluefirebee: That is exactly what I thought when I decided to let my fiance go dress shopping with me. I tried on dresses with my bridesmaids before, but it seems like my decisions were unsure. So my mom suggested that I should try shopping with my fiance to get an idea of what he likes too, and then we did. I am from the States, so they are pretty traditional with the “groom not seeing the bride until the wedding day”. When people saw that I bought my fiance to try on dresses with me, I did get some weird eyes. But with him, we found a dress we both love in that one stop. Then I realized, I rather have both of us like a dress than other people because it will be our day. I want him to can’t take his eyes off of me because I am beautiful to him not because it’s the first time him seeing me in a dress & trying to analyze what me & my bridesmaids picked out. Even my mom love the dress we picked, so I knew it was the one. Other brides were shocked to hear that I had already picked my dress within a week, while it took them awhile. 

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

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    thegoods:  Like other PPs have said. He will not remember. My Fiance took my dress out of my car for me when I picked it up, and it’s in a clear plastic bag. He will not remember anything. Most guys won’t.

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