(Closed) Fiance says he won't cry during the ceremony

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

It kind of seems like the people who don’t normally cry usually do on the wedding day, and the criers somehow manage to keep it together. I’ve got no idea how that works, but crying isn’t something you can control. I never thought i’d cry when FH proposed, but I was a blubbering mess! I am not usually a crier. He can say he won’t cry all he likes, but you won’t know until the day!

As for the first look, if he thinks seeing you for the first time will be non-emotional, he should have no problems with it 😉

Whether he does or doesn’t cry though, just remember he can’t really control it, and it’s got nothing to do with how he feels about you.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

No big deal. I see why you’re bothered by it – in that situation, I think I would have been caught off guard too – but I don’t think he meant to offend. Whether he simply smiles or he bawls at the ceremony doesn’t matter. What matters is him standing up there with you.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Overdramatic! Not all men are cry on their wedding day even if they are naturally emotional people. He is right though…it is just a dress! No big deal if he doesn’t fall over and flood the wedding venue with a puddle of tears. 

Neither myself or my fiance cried on our wedding day and we are emotional people lol.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t let it get to you, he is trying to be macho.  My dh said the same thing and guess what, he cried like a baby, he cried the moment he saw me in the church and he cried when my son’s made a speech saying how glad they are to have him, and he cried when I made a speech, he cried when we left the reception and had a moment alone…and if he didn’t, it really wouldn’t have mattered because he loves me no matter what and we had a great day!

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@FutureMrsWeston:  Yes. You are being overdramatic. That should be the least of your worries.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Keep an onion on you! That will get the tears flowing!

anyone remember the episode of friends where Monica was giving an anniversary speech and wanted to make her parents cry? Maybe talk about his dead dog from childhood??!!

seriously tho- you can’t possibly really get mad about this!!! 1. Who even knows what will happen. 2. Let him be genuine. Don’t try to force his emotions. 

Post # 24
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Newbee

@FutureMrsWeston:  My fiance said he wouldn’t cry when he proposed to me or when we got married.

When he proposed, I burst into happy tears and his eyes were full of tears! There were about 50 people watching us and he made a joke to cover up his emotion before pulling me into a big cuddle, but I saw the tears!

So ignore what your fiance is saying – he’s a man and probably doesn’t want to/expect to cry infront of everyone, but if he’s an emotional person he won’t be able to help it!

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Everyone told me my DH would cry, and we both completely disagreed with them! I didn’t even think I would cry! We both ended up crying! 

Really, you can’t predict this sort of thing. My husband is NOT an emotional kind of guy, he is a very stereotypical “many man”: wrestler in HS, firefighter in the summer. 

I was honestly HOPING he wouldn’t cry because I cant control my tears when I see guys cry for some reason! 

Even if he doesn’t cry it doesn’t mean he isn’t touched or emotional. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My Fiance probably won’t cry either… but then again I’ve only seen him cry once.

Post # 27
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Worker bee

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Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I said all the freggin’ time I would be balling as I’m very much a “crier” guess who did NOT cry during the ceremony? Me, the crier.

So he can say whatever he wants he may or may not cry.

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

He also might be willing himself to not cry :). And honestly, he really might not! I felt so comfortable and loved on my wedding day that I didn’t cry (except when I met with my dad). On graduation, though, I was sobbing. It’s hard to predict if you’re going to cry or not, and it’s also hard to understand the emotions that will cause either response!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My fiance’ isn’t an emotional man by any means. I’ve only seen him cry twice in our 5 1/2 year relationship! The last time was about 2 or 3 years ago. >_< 

When I found my dress with my mom we both shed a few tears and I told her that day, “This dress deserves all the tears in the world of happiness.” 

I came home and told my fiance’ I had found the dress and how much I just loved it without telling him any details. His only wish for the dress was he wanted it to have a train, which it has! The train is beaded with Swaroski crystals and fresh water pearls. It is just a lovely dress for me. <3 

And all he could say was “That is nice, I am glad you found the dress.” He didn’t seem like he cared all that much which kind of upset me. I told him, “You will cry when you see my dress. Or I’ll sack tap you to get those tears going!” We both laughed, and he smiled and hugged me and told me that he’d love the dress. 

I think your fiance’ just can’t imagine it like you can, he can’t imagine you glowing, and that beautiful moment while you’re walking down the isle to meet him and when you finally stand in front of him. I just don’t think he is that attached right now because he cannot see it, but just wait….When he is welling up with pride, and so many other emotions seeing you in your dress…..He’ll most likely shed a tear…or cry! 

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