- 8 months ago
I’m curious….how did you spend your time together before you lived together? I’m just wondering how you came to love someone enough to live with them and become engaged to them….did all of that abruptly stop when you moved in together?
Anyway….that’s really not even the point. The point, I’m sorry to say, is that the two of you are entirely incompatible. A couple doesn’t need to share every hobby and interest, but certainly have some commonalities…sounds like you have literally none. That will never work. Your inherent ideas of a day to day existence just don’t match. Marriage won’t fix that. It will highlight it.
And…this is important….when I was dating my husband, if I expressed a concern about how things were going, he would move heaven and earth to fix it, because how our relationship was going was equally important to him. The way your guy dismisses your feelings and does nothing to find some common ground and make you happy is the BIGGEST red flag you will get. PLEASE do not ignore it. Please. Find someone who is better for you. (Yes, you can. Trust me.)