(Closed) Fiancé says no to color scheme :(

posted 5 years ago in Decor
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

Did you ask him why he didn’t like it?

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I mean it is his wedding too…I’d just sit down and explain why you love those colors, ask why he doesn’t love the colors, and see where you can find the compromise.  Give up the beige and coral and ask what suggestions he might have for colors to go with the scuba blue.  

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

camiyu86:   Did he not like any of the colors?  If you love that shade of blue, tell him and then see if you two can find other colors he will like to go with it.  

Our color scheme took on a life of its own – it changed a few times during the planning process for various reasons.  Everything worked out.  Cobalt was one of our colors.  

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

camiyu86:  I wouldn’t try to convince him to go with colors he hates — would you want him to try to convince you to go with a color scheme you hated?

It’s his wedding, too.

Now is a perfect time to start practicing your compromising skills. I understand that you fell in love with beige, coral and scuba blue, but there is a whole world of other color schemes out there. Surely you two can find something that you both love. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What season is your wedding in, and what sort of venue will you have? Keeping this in mind, you should talk to him about why he doesn’t like the colors and what he’s thinking instead. He may be totally off-base depending on what sort of wedding you’re having. Maybe you can explain better why you love the colors you do, or find a compromise that works. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Our colors are navy and coral, I sold it as “salmon” 😉 and he loves the outdoors. I also showed him suit options and how I thought flowers, etc would look if we went that route!

 

He told me no when I said coral but he wanted a blue suit and it fit well for our desination theme!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s just colors. Sit down together with Pinterest and find something you both like. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Restaurant

I have been where you are.

My fiance also gave me liberty to choose the color palette, saying everything was okay as long as I included something blue (his favorite color). I am awful with colors, so eventually I decided to just stick with the color palette of the venue I booked, which are: orange and silver (with a little bit of brown and green) and just incorporated a dark blue.

My fiance wasn’t convinced with the orange and silver combination -we were never fans of orange and he thought silver was kind of depressing- but I had already made my mind and wasn’t in the mood fo changing colors. So I decided to take him to the venue with me and explain him how everything would look, using as many descriptions as possible so he could actually imagine the colors, decorations and everything.

He seemed to enjoy the idea better after my little demostration. He also said he felt happy to have blue, even if it was just a little bit. Maybe you can ask him for his favorite color and incorporate it with yours, give him a picture or drawing and try to make him imagine the whole day not only the color scheme.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Luckily my fiancé loves pastels. He jokes that his closet looks like the Easter bunny threw up in it. But he still didn’t want something too feminine. I first suggested peach and mint. He didn’t like it. Then blue. He suggested lavender and yellow bc our college colors were purple and gold but I didn’t want to be that couple. Then I absolutley fell in love with the ivory and blush. With hints of green and metallics.  He didn’t really have a choice. He’s happy with his grey tux and pink gingham bow tie and happier that I’m happy with it. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

Ours are aqua, coral, grey and navy! Fiance really didn’t care but I figured he would like a more manly color like navy and he wears that a lot. Did you tell you why he didn’t like it?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

camiyu86:  i agree with PP. Sit down with him and see what colors he is ok with and what he doesn’t like. It’s very rare  that the groom cares about this stuff but when they do decide to step in we have to remember it’s their day as well shucks right. Just as you had everything in order the groom speaks up. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

camiyu86: I had aqua/tiffany blue with red and I loved how fresh and fun it looked. Darling Husband and I did have a couple of cnversations over colours but he pretty much left it to me, but I let him know what I was thinking along the way. I suggest apeaking with him and both saying what colours you like then what colours you both would consider for your wedding day, from that you can team up colours you both like and go well together. p.s that pic you posted does look beautifu! 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’d find some nice suits with that colour scheme and show him that. I think men see the colours and think that’s going to look good/awful on me. If you find a lovely suit that will help convince

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Saying no is really easy and doesn’t contribute anything. This is a good time to set down an important boundary: he can say no to whatever as long as he has another idea. You will get really resentful really fast if you set yourself up as the planner and him as the one who nixes all your plans

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