- Mountain Girl
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2016
I am a regualr poster/reader on the bee and have decided to go “undercover” for some advice
My Fiance has never done anything unfaithful however some red flags are starting to appear. I am his first serious relationship, first one to have sex with, etc. Fiance is my second, after an abusive (sexually and physically) relationship.
We haven’t ever had a spectacular sex life, something which we both really struggle with. We have sex maybe once a week, usually more like once ever two. As a result of my abuse from my past relatinoship as well as as a child, I really struggle being sexally active, don’t really find myself attractive, and have really low desire for sex. Fiance says he does, but never really asks for it. When we do have sex…its so-so. Same thing each time, no adventures, and honestly its…not really satisfying for me.
Fiance has been working a job not in his career field, he can’t find anything, with girls who are much younger, single, and flirty. One girl specifically just rubs me the wrong way, from what he tells me she hits on him. I trust him, but also know that he doesn’t really always stick up for himself or set his boundries strongly. I was feeling like something was up, so I snooped his phone. BAD I know, but my gut was telling me something was up. Fiance has asked her several times to cover his shifts, and therefore has texted her a few times. She recently texted him something which I don’t understand, but also used a pet name to refer to him (“Pandaa”)…I will post the exact texts when I can.
Within Fiance email, one he supposedly never uses anymore, I noticed that he had sent himself a picture… Opened it only to find a picture of himself in his “lower regions” naked. I find it a little suspicious that Fiance would send himself something of this nature, let alone to his own email…
I don’t have anything proving he has done anything wrong, but feel that there is somethign going on. I don’t quite know what to think about this all.. I know it was wrong of me to snoop, its something I haven’t ever done before, but now I am stuck with a sick feeling in my gut and don’t know where to go from here…