(Closed) Fiance upset about inviting my Friend

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think that even if he’s upset now, he’ll probably get over it and/or forget about it soon. Also, I don’t think that either you or he should worry about your friend’s presence negatively affecting him at the wedding. If you have more than a couple of dozen guests, what are the odds he’ll have to even acknowledge/see/talk to her at all?

I hope this helps – It’s just my first impression and the best advice I can give without knowing more about the nature of their mutual antipathy. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Why does he dislike her so much… is it just that they don’t get along, or did something happen at some point?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh – and if it makes a difference, I can relate a bit to what your fiancé is feeling. My mother is inviting one of her best friends to our wedding – and my fiancé and I can’t stand this friend. But we’re going along to get along, here! Our plan is just to avoid her and not talk to her on our wedding day. It’s not as if we’re going to run out of people to talk to and things to do, right?

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe if she knows that she is kind of loud and obnoxious, she can tone it down a bit at the wedding?  I mean, she does know that your Fiance has a problem with her being obnoxious and loud so maybe she can tone it down to not cause a scene at your wedding.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are having to go through this, but I think your Fiance needs to get over himself. As he stated this day is supposed to be “the happiest day of our lives”. If he truly beleives that, he wouldn’t be upset by you inviting your friend. He gets to invite his friends, so you inviting yours shouldn’t even be an issue. He doesn’t even have to interact with her at the wedding, if he doesn’t want to.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Just ask him to be cordial if he sees her. Just say hello and move on. He can move to the other side of the table/to a different table/to the bathroom if he needs to. She can be there and he can still have a good time.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

This is a duplicate thread so I’m going to close it.  If you want to comment, please go here!

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