(Closed) fiance wanted to be at his 'friends' delivery…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@thebearshoney:  Wow, I’m really sorry that this is all happening to you. It seems like your ex fiance is showing this other woman more attention than you. He has no right to be at this ladys child birth unless he is the father? My advice to you would be just to leave him. Obviously he’s more concerned about the well being of his “friend”. I know it’s gonna be hard but it’s in your best interest to move on. Good luck, you deserve much better than all this.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

His actions make it perfectly clear what he wants.

What did you mean when you said he bullies you?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I’m so sorry you’re in this position, but honestly I think you are better off without him. His behavior isn’t okay. Is it possible he is the father of this woman’s baby? The way he’s focused on her is pretty shifty.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sassy411:  His actions make it perfectly clear what he wants.

Unfortunately, this. He’s very clearly showing you that he holds her above you. I don’t care if he asked you to marry him; allowing her to come over whenever she wants, treat you like she does, and then pick fights with you about it really tells me that he’s got more than friendship on his mind for her. :

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You deserve so much better than this piece of $&!^.  I know it’s hard to acknowledge right now, but just be really glad that he decided to show you his true colors before you two got married.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Are you 100% certain he isn’t the father of her child? A lot of what you’ve written certainly makes it seem as though he is.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@thebearshoney:  OH sweetie I am really sorry. Don’t feel like you are being a b**** you have every right to ask him to take a step back since he ins’t. Something is kinda fishy to me. Run Run Run now… It might suck, it might hurt…. but something isn’t right. I promise you.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@Jijitattoo:  +1 my thoughts exactly. A one night stand? hmmm He is acting like a man who owes her something and that something is probably child support. Sorry youre dealing with this!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Sounds like his relationship with this woman is more than just friendship. Or at the very least he would jump at the chance to be in a relationship with her if given the opportunity. Most men aren’t that gung-ho about a woman unless they’re interested or involved already.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Have you considered that perhaps he is the father of the baby?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My thoughts turned to “perhaps he’s the father” whilst I was reading this too. The whole situation doesn’t add up.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I too thought it weird that he volunteered to be in the delivery room with her, that doesn’t seem normal, even if he saw her like a sister it would still be weird for him to be there during the delivery.  

 

Sorry that you are going through this, follow your gut, if it doesn’t seem right it isn’t right.  

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I regret to say that I also felt that while  reading this I too thought he could be the father? You need to have a serious chat with him. While I feel he has shown his feelings clearly… you need to be direct and ask him if she is worth losing you entirely. While I dont like the whole choose me or her thing….it IS what needs to be done so you can move on EITHER way. I am truly sorry you are going thru this.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is too stange. I have three kids, and I was questioning wether to allow the FATHER of my own children to venture past my shoulders….

I am not sure if he’s the father as this whole game he and she is playing….is a bit much and alot of acting on both of their parts.  In the end, you come first bottom line.

 

It also is sad that as a woman, she hasn’t stepped down, to let you take priority. I have had best male friends in the past, that I talked to everyday and we shared things like a couple w/out being one, but the minute they had a serious relationship I backed off, and if I really wanted to be included I made a huge effort to befriend the girl. That’s the only way you get to keep the guy friend, And it’s RUDE to make yourself a priority over her.  She’s wrong, he’s wrong, and if they can’t recognize that, time to move on.

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