(Closed) Fiance wants change our wedding plans . . . again. Non-license ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you’re not going to get actually married on the beach I’d say what the point?  I’d wait but if he postpones the May wedding I’d call the whole thing off.  I think you’ve been super accomodating but if he postpones again it’s too much for you.  Sorry to sound harsh but if he thinks he can just keep stringing you along that’s just not fair!

PS: It seems to me that he has a valid reason though – I think he means it!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It does sound like he has changed his mind about his family and friends witnessing the marriage. Did he just say that about having the commitment ceremony w/o the license to not disappoint you? Maybe the two of you need to plan a romantic getaway that has nothing to do with wedding planning? Just my 2 cents.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Maybe since he’s changed his mind, you can get him to talk to his family about a date and commit to at least the venue? If you are getting married next May, the two of you need to focus on the planning for that if it’s going to now be a big affair.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

why don’t you do a vow renewal after the large ceremony during your honeymoon?

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Could he possibly be getting pressure form his family for all of these things?  Not getting married before the “wedding”, moving the location so it is closer to family, waiting a little longer to make it official?  These all sound like concerns that could be voiced by his family to him, and make him rethink his (your) decisions.  I think you need to have a sit down with him and figure things out.  Tell him you’re hurt and confused, and need to know why he is feeling the need to change things.  That this is a very important event to you, and you want to be his WIFE, not just throw a good party…see how he responds to that…

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Caliwed- Wow! You’ve done a lot (more than me!) and in light of all the plans you’ve made & deposits paid, it is strange that he would ask to change all that. I would definitley have a serious discussion and get to the bottom of all of this. I would be so frustrated if my Fiance wanted to change everything NOW! Good luck and I hope you two can work it out soon.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Oh no…I read this thread from your most recent one. Caliwed, I am so, so sorry you have gone through all of this. Hold onto hope – not for this relationship, but for your future.

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