- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
ugh. Okay, I lost my job 2 months ago, and we are planning a wedding and trying to buy a house so that obviously sucks, like, horribly.
I am getting unemployment and applying like mad and have been on a few interviews and am working with some temp agencies.
My fiance has been really helpful and supportive with everything … except for the fact that he CONSTANTLY brings up the fact that he thinks I should apply for a job with a company I LOATHE.
The company is a HUGE healthcare giant in our region. Actually, it’s global. UPMC – University of Pittsburgh Medical Center – you’ve probably heard of it, even if you live in the rainforest and wear loincloths made of leaves.
Anyway, I hate the fact that healthcare is a business in our country. Period. I don’t agree with it. And my mom has serious health problems and our experiences because of this have led me to feel this way. (I could explain in detail, but we would literally be here for hours).
Also, this very same health system nearly killed my mother on 3 seperate occassions 2 years ago when she was in the hospital for 3 months. There were several infections, miscommunications, lost charts, wrong info., fueding doctors, unreturned phone calls — it was a total nightmare. My parents were actually considering suing the hospital. The only reason they didn’t is because the stress would have been too much on my mom.
But my fiance works at the children’s hospital, ordering and delivering supplies, taking inventory, cleaning instruments, that sort of thing. And he just got promoted and makes good money, has good benefits, and loves his job. Which is great.
So he keeps emailing the SHIT out of me whenever he finds job postings for this institution. Yes, the are good paying jobs and have great benefits. But I HATE the organization. I HATE the healthcare industry. I HATE everything upmc stands for (and doesn’t stand for).
We have had countless arguments about why I don’t want to work there. I would almost rather work anywhere else doing anything else. He just doesn’t get it though.
I admit I have applied to a select few of the jobs he’s sent me, just to shut him up.
But the longer I am unemployed, the more jobs he sends me and the more he grills me about it.
I have considered lying and saying I am applying for them all, but in reality, just deleting them.
I never lie to my fiance about anything significant, and I feel horrible considering doing it now, but … he just doesn’t get it!!
I even explained it to him this way: Me working for upmc would be like a pro-lifer working at an abortion clinic. That is how strongly I feel. And while my fiance supports everything else I stand for, he can’t wrap his head around this and it’s really causing problems.
I don’t know what to do or what to say.