Fiancé Wants Space Before Wedding

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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3413 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

sunburn :  There is nothing here to suggest that he is seeing someone else.. I’m not sure why you would a) jump to that conclusion and b) add salt to the wound here by suggesting it.

The only thing we know is that he is not ready to commit to marriage, and he handled his emotions very poorly and in a way that was disrespectful of OPs needs. No need to make it out to be worse or more painful than it alredy is.

OP – be glad this discussion is happening now and not after the wedding. I agree with PPs here that you need to cancel or at a minimum, postpone, this wedding.

Post # 32
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It sounds like he is checking out of the relationship and is going to break up with you in person this weekend. I’m sorry, bee 🙁 Be gentle with yourself, and have your support system at the ready.

Post # 33
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572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Needing space is bullshit. People in committed relationships to the point of being married in 3 months don’t get to pull that. After you are married, does he get to just stay in a hotel for a while and ignore and your children while he gets his space? That’s ridiculous.

Sounds like something is going on. Whether or not he has someone else is uncertain, since you say he tends to do this sometimes. But it is definitely something I woudn’t be able to live with. 

He sounds like a drama king.

Post # 34
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4058 posts
Honey bee

sboom :  I’m older and I’ve seen a lot of things. And when a man gives nebulous reasons why he needs space, 9 times out of 10 it’s because he met someone who has made him reconsider the relationship. 

I don’t sugar coat.

Post # 35
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249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

rxdnce3 :  ): completely unfair, & you were so close to being done!! Im hoping for a happy update though (: Best of luck!

Post # 37
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4910 posts
Honey bee

Any update? Hope you’re ok. 

Post # 38
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3844 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I hope you’re ok bee 🙁

Post # 39
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1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

This is unacceptable behavior. You are supposed to be his WIFE. HIS PARTNER IN LIFE. His Right Hand Chick. His ride or die. His new family. 

This is NOT how you treat that very special amazing person who would drop anything for you and do anything for you. Someone who has been by your side for 5 years. 

HELL TO THE NO BEE. You need to put your mother loving foot down and tell him how you feel. Come up with a plan B and stick to it. 

Give him an opportunity to talk to you AND if he doesn’t? Give him an ultimatum girl and stick to your guns. Make sure he knows you mean business, you are NOT messing around and will not take this sh*t from him. I think he needs counseling, too. 

Good luck Bee. I would be RIP SHIT if my fi did this to me. 

Post # 40
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2830 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

rxdnce3 :  So what happened this weekend when you got together?

Post # 41
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3043 posts
Sugar bee

Hoping everything went OK this weekend !

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