(Closed) Fiance wants to abbriviate his name on the invitation

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I suppose you CAN, but it doesn’t sound like you WANT to, lol.

I haven’t ever even thought of this (FI’s full first name is only 4 letters) but both of my brothers go by shortened versions…Hmm.

Post # 4
Member
853 posts
Busy bee

Sure, of course you can!  I agree with you, in that I tend to like people’s full names (especially in print!) but I think you should go with whatever he’s most comfortable with.

Post # 5
Member
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I guess you could if you wanted to.  I abbreviated my husbands dad’s name because he never goes by the full version. 

Post # 6
Member
11394 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@AmeliaBedelia:  Not to thread jack but you just called your husband your fiance. LOL It takes time not to type Fiance. lol

& OP, I like the full name spelled out as well. But if he goes by Chris & he really wants it that way, I would let him have it that way.

Post # 7
Member
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you should go by what he prefers and since he never goes by his full name no one will be surprised I think.

Post # 8
Member
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My husband is Chris too, but we wrote Christopher. I think it kind of has to do with how formal your wedding will be. Ours was black tie, so both of us used our full names on the invitations.

Post # 9
Member
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@Happy7:  There are many things you will want to have the final say on for the wedding, pick your battles. Let him have the shorter version of his name if he is more comfortable with it.

Post # 10
Member
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

We had my DH’s full name on our invitations (He usually goes by Josh, but we put Joshua on the invitations and other printed things). That said, I don’t think it matters much. If you Fiance really prefers Chris and would feel uncomfortable having “christopher” there because he hasn’t used that name in his life for as far back as he can remember, just use Chris.

Like a PP said, pick your battles… I think this is a very small thing to compromise on. 🙂

Post # 11
Member
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My name is Kimberly and my husbands is Timothy and our invitations read “Tim and Kim”. Nobody knows us by our full names so it would have been strange to spell them out. It would feel like jury duty or something.

Post # 12
Member
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m Kimberly and my finance is Christopher. No one calls us by these names, we are Kim & Chris. That being said, we are using our full names for the invites because it is a formal invitation/wedding but we are using Chris & Kim for the Save-The-Date Cards (also partially because getting our full names on a business card size STD is pretty much impossible).

But you both can do what you want. If my fiance really felt strongly about using Chris on the invite that would be OK with me, althhough not my first choice.

 

 

Post # 13
Member
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I have a full name that I never go by, and we actually did both.  On the front seal, which just had an image of a mask, our wedding date, and our first names, I put my nickname.  On the inside on the formal invitation part, I entered my full name.

Post # 14
Member
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Do whatever the two of you want. We abbreviated my DH’s name on the invitation.

Post # 15
Member
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Does it bother him to be referred to as Christopher? During the ceremony, our full names will be used- only Mike’s family calls him Michael, but the vows will be “Michael”, since that’s his given name. 

Post # 16
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My husband had a name like that, too, and we used his formal name on the invitation because it was a formal invitation. On everything “less” formal, like save-the-dates and whatnot, we used his everyday name.

The topic ‘Fiance wants to abbriviate his name on the invitation’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors