(Closed) Fiance wants to propose again—new ring

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Why not use the “new” ring as the ring you exchange when you get married? Then it will have the best symbolism associated with it! 

I think it’s very sweet that he wants to mark a new beginning with you, but I’m not sure “proposing” is the best way to do it since you’re already engaged and it sounds like he would do this after you are married. If you don’t use this new ring during the wedding, why can’t he just give you the new ring with a cute little speech? It doesn’t have to be a “proposal”. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Glad to be of help! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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kaity.velazquez :  I agree with PP. I think it doesn’t need to be a proposal, a proposal is saying “let’s get married”, which you have both decided and will have done. Then at the wedding you’ll sign up for better or worse and you already have an idea of the worst that life can throw at people. Let your new chapter be your wedding day. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through but your engagement has made you stronger as a couple because it was so awful.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Why not get your cushion reset to a three stone? Bring the past and present together. That past made you who you are. I’d embrace it…not try to draw a line between the two times. You could use diamond side stones or a colored stone that has meaning. I had a green diamond added to my wedding band to represent my son and husband…Both have green eyes.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think you should just get a nice anniverary band or RHR. To me, an e-ring represents ALL chapters of your life together — all the good times and all the tough times you’ve made it through.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I kind of love the idea of an eternity ring that symbolizes the bond and journey the two of you have been on. I agree with the PPs that a new proposal doesn’t quite make sense – you and your Fiance have been together and been through so much, it’s more about how deep your bond goes now, not deciding to spend the rest of your lives together. It’s so much deeper than that!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I don’t see the point of a 2nd proposal. No matter what was going on in your life, it WAS special because that’s when he decided to ask and you decided to say yes. I would rather put that money into an upgraded honeymoon or something that will you get to experience together!! 

or like others have said, if it must be a ring maybe something like an anniversary ring.

 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I just wanted to say how touching it is that he feels that way and wants to get you a new ring!

Post # 15
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Busy bee

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kaity.velazquez : There are no rules about what you two are allowed to do or re-do. If you two feel that you want to experience what it’s like to have the proposal of your dreams, then do it! My DH and I did not get our ideal wedding, and we’ve talked about renewing our vows in the future. We don’t have to just deal with or accept the fact that our wedding was awful, if we feel like it, then we are going to do it again! You should do the same if that’s what you guys desire. For your second ring, you could add in colored gemstones to represent your child or losses. If possible, I’d find someone on Etsy to design the ring with to put in special touches. Congrats on your upcoming wedding!  

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