Post # 1
My fiance doesnt want to talk about planning our wedding till he speaks to his father who he hasnt spoken to in 2 years. He did not meet his father till he was 21, and is now 37. He moved out to CA to be close to his father and his new brothers when he was 21, and they had a strong relationship for quite a few years. Since we have been together for about 3 1/2 years, I went out there with him in our first year of dating and that was it. My fiance keeps in contact with one of his brothers often, but I just feel he feels so distant from them. And he doesnt want to discuss the wedding till he makes contact with them first to see if they are available.
On discussing our wedding, which we have thrown out the idea of January 2013 as my family from Australia will be over in Florida already. And if my dad is going to help with the wedding, then I dont want him to have to fork out alot more money a couple of months later to fly over here again. I am trying to be courteous to my family as well. They will be flying the furtherst.
My fiance and I have been engaged since NYE 2010 and I just want to get married already and start our life.
Any suggestions on how to address an email to his father. He wants me to help him tonight, and I dont have any clue on how to start it.
Post # 3
I would call. I’m assuming he has no idea you two are engaged.
Say something like, “Hello (FFIL/Dad). We’re calling to announce our engagement. I know its been a long time since we’ve talked and I’m sorry we haven’t had the chance to call as much as we should. We are currently thinking about having the wedding in (location) on (date/month/season). We’re mostly calling because we want to make sure all of the important people can attend. Do you think that time would work well for you? Also, how have you been? (launch into a friendly conversation about anything else that might be new in your lives like a new job, pet ect. and anything new in his life). Its been so great to catch up with you. (Include or don’t include this next part.) Would you like to come over for (dinner/lunch/hang out ect.) sometime to discuss the wedding plans (or tell me more about something interesting he mentions)?”
I guess you could translate that into an email, but for something big like an engagement I would prefer a phone call.
Post # 4
Does the dad know you two are engaged and planning a wedding? Or, does he know you’re engaged and haven’t started planning yet?
If he wants to do it by email, I would just say:
Hey dad, I know it’s been a while since we last spoke. I really miss you and hope we can talk soon. Let me know when you’re available to talk on the phone. The reason I’m emailing you is to let you know that AussieFlBride and I are engaged! We’re so excited for this time in our lives and I really want you to be at the wedding. Right now, her family is scheduled to come to the states in January 2013 and we were thinking that we would have our wedding then in (LOCATION). I know it’s a bit of short notice, but I really hope that you would be able to join us for our wedding, so I’m trying to reach out to give you a head’s up and find out if this is at all possible for you. Let’s talk sometime about whether or not this works for you. Miss you! Love, Fiance.