(Closed) Fiancée broke off engagement and said she needs space. Does this mean its over?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Hard truth: Move on. If she comes back, she comes back. But it’s time for you to start dating again. She made the choice to ask for a break and the statements about “getting back together” mean that you are broken up. Pick up the pieces and start meeting new people. You never know, she may shape up and realize the mistake she’s making, but it’s not fair for her to jerk you back and forth. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Let her go. If she comes back, she was meant to be yours. If she doesn’t, that just means there is someone even better out there for you.

I’m sorry that you are going through this. I’ve been there, sans engagement. It really sucks. Stay strong <3

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@Packers12:  I know you want answers and you want to know what will happen….but the truth is she doesn’t know right now. She can’t answer you because she just doesn’t know. It’s going to be super hard, but you have to let it be. Let her have her space. I do think you can ask her for a set time to decide by though. it’s unfair to keep you waiting for an extended period. I’d say, give her a month to herself. No contact. At the end of the month, she has to tell you yes or no to being together. Be easy on her, don’t push the wedding or anything. But a decision has to be made eventually. After a month if her answer is no, you start dating again.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

How old are you both? How long were you dating before you proposed?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Something similar happened to me years ago (without the engagement part). My ex strung me along for about 3 weeks and after that much time where one day it was fine, the next it wasn’t, I decided I couldn’t handle it anymore and for my own sanity, I broke it off. Hardest thing ever, as he was my first love, and it hurt like hell. I did get over him though, eventually, and it was easier once I made the decision that I didn’t deserve to be treated like that.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@Packers12:  If you really want her to come back to you then think about her complaints and try to work on them. Also, if she needs space then giving it to her will be for the best. To do otherwise shows your insecurity and girls don’t want to be married to an insecure person. Is she already seeing someone else? In that case no matter what you do it’ll never be good enough for her. If she doesn’t want you back at all then you must cut your losses and move on. That’ll save you a lot of heartache. Have one final talk with her, ask her clearly if she wants to stay or go, and if she decides to go, move on to other (better) people. 

I’m still hoping that the two of you will be able to work it out. Good luck!

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Packers12:  Was it fair to you when she decided she needed her space? I don’t think so.

Move on.

Post # 11
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506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@artichokey:  I second this. You need to give her time to be completely cut off from you so that she can make her choice. This is also time for you to think and decide if this is the relationship for you!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m going to agree with PP and say all you can do it stop contacting her and give her her space. She needs space. She may come back to you, or she may not. You have to prepare yourself that this relationship may be over.

I’m very sorry.

Post # 16
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423 posts
Helper bee

@Packers12:  That’s always a good sign. I really hope the two of you get back together. I’ve always been a sucker for a happy love story.

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